FIRST, I'm a guy. My avatar is a girl because I'm the one who has to see it every day. Okay, so I met this woman who is younger than me. She chased me, I took it slow to make sure that we're compatible, she hooked up with someone else, I aggressively wrote her off, she gave me the silent treatment for 3 months, then chased me again for 3 months, finally said that she loved me and that she knows that I love her. I thought about it. She's right. I told her. She told me "I (she) have issues," (implying that she's working on them) and now we're back to the silent treatment, with the occasional longing glance. But no direct communication. I've tried to ask what's going on, but she won't respond, instead reporting my questions to her best friend. I've met someone else who's, also giving me mixed messages... but at least not the silent treatment, which REALLY bothers me. Should I keep waiting for #1 to come around?
2007-03-28 12:16:00 · 14 answers · asked by Dr_Adam_Bricker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say you wait. You said you love her and why leave that opportunity for someone else who has problems who you don't have a strong connection to? Waitin' is hard, I know and at some point you will have to decide how much longer you will wait but give it a chance. It is good she is tryin to sift through and figure out her issues and maybe she feels like if she is in regular communication with you, it might be a lil' harder to do that because of her emotional tie to you..patience is a wonderful thing.
2007-03-28 12:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope you shouldn't wait around for her. Look if she wanted you she'd have you by now. But from what I gather you're there when she wants you there and she doesn't want anything seriously.
Ask yourself this: If you didn't give her the attention she craves, would she still come around? Really I mean women feed off attention and will nearly do anything to string a guy along to get it.
So frankly unless she's giving you concrete reasons for you to continue trying, then move on.
2007-03-28 19:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is key to a relationship and it doesn't look like u guys r communicating. if she's giving you the silent treatment on and off then she doesn't seem very mature. i wouldn't wait 4 someone that's gonna keep playing mind games like that.i went through that before and it will drive u crazy.
2007-03-28 19:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by shortstuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! to many issues and she is using u until she gets how she really wants. If you have doubt in the beginning warning signs. To many woman that will appreciate a man like u. Wait, not available, space that is what u need. Especially if it bothers u--Remember you are the man.
2007-03-28 19:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah. Let her (#1) fix her issues on someone else's time. It's a shame to hear that you were pining for her and then she slipped off w/ another guy. That sounds pretty decisive to me.
I'd also let the current one go on her merry way too. Sounds like you should keep looking for someone who is on your level - who is honest and is seeking more than just a yo-yo relationship.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 19:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait around for much longer - it sounds like she's not emotionally ready (or mature enough) for a relationship right now. She seems pretty comfortable stringing you along, knowing that you'll be there when she's ready. If you think she's worth it, wait - if it starts to get annoying, tell her what's up!
2007-03-28 19:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Delvala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh Yeah I mean she is like having these issues but like she knows you will be around so she will come on to you when she wants then push you off when she wants Like a toy I dont think you see it now but You will see I would Fish around you never know
2007-03-28 19:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short. Do whatever makes YOU happy. Mixed signals usually have reasons behind them - there are people that do have their sh*! together. Meet as many people as you can and have as many friends as you can. Someone will fall into that special place thats empty. You'll see. P.S. It's not your loss.......its HERS (#1). Good luck sweety.
2007-03-28 19:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...move on.
If a girl tells you she has issues...that is a red flag that you should likely move on and try and be with someone who can appreciate you, and your company.
The most attractive girls are usually crazy, dear
2007-03-28 19:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by tragedys_kiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really seems like she is trying to send you a message to tell her that you really love her. She loves you, and you love her, you guys were meant to be together. Listen, go up to her tommorow, and tell her that you really love her, and kiss her right on the lips.
2007-03-28 19:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by FerretLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋