How do you tell if a girl is interested in you or just wants to be friends?

Question

There is a girl in my class that I have known for 4 years. We really didn't talk that much until this year. She is in my homeroom, and sits next to me in our auditorium where we have announcements and such. One day, she was just like "You were in my dream last night..." And it started a short conversation. Since then, we have been talking a lot. She also has a boyfriend who graduated last year. I don't know how much they see each other or even if they are still going out. When we talk, she looks at me directly in the eyes all the time, and smiles. Most of the time she is starting up a conversation, and other times we don't even say anything. Her locker is right next to mine as well, but it is rare I will say anything during passing. Oddly enough, we both are in the same Friendship to Marriage class at our school, but when we choose seats (tables in a line), she sat 4 seats away next to her friend. I am just confused a little bit and want to know if its just friends or more.

I don't think I am ready to just flat out ask, I want to be sure this time. Is there signs I should look for?

Answer 1

I would say that she is interested, but hesitate because of this other relationship, an the only one that can answer your truthfully is her. You have to ask her straight up. As for the dream it can tell you more then you know.

Answer 2

I had a friend like this in high school. I would say that if you want to really see what is up then ask her to something kind of casual. Something during the day with other people on a weekend ora concert with friends. This will give you a chance to talk to her outside of school. Just be cool about it....ie...."Hey, some people are going to the blank concert on Friday, we have an extra ticket, wanna go?" Make sure that the group is coed and there is someone else that she knows going. Other examples would be...." Hey, there's this blank thing I'm going to on Saturday with some people from blank. Wanna go?". If you setup the event it might even be better. It could be something educational or something fun. The best bet is to arrange it around something that you have both spoken about and that you both like. If you set it up and invite people from your class, then you accomplish two things. You are showing that you are good at organizing events, can be an attractive quality, and that she can be relaxed about it because other poeple are going. The biggest thing is that whether you are a man or a woman you want it both. Men want the nice faithful girl who can be wild and fun at the same time. Women want the confident, bold guy who can also be sensitive when the time is right. I try to be more confident than sensitive and most girls seem to like that the best. Above all, go for what you want. You are only young once and you don't want to look back and say..."I totally should have asked that girl out". If you like her, then ask her out. There are no do overs.

Answer 3

every girl need space that explains the sitting 4 seats away as well she has a friend in the class i think that if she alwasy talks to u and makes an effort than u having somehting going there if she is always laughing and bruhing up against you ro touching you when she tlaks and laughs shes either really flirty or has something for u ask her to hang out sometime and see what she says just go really little step by step and it will be very clue weather she likes us aswell when u are tlaking be like my friend say u yesterday with ur boyfriend how is he ? and if she says she doest have a boyfriend then be like my friend goofed up a really easy cover !

Janine

Answer 4

Oh thats an easy one.... ask her out, just the two of you .. If she says yes then she likes you if she just wants to be friends she will say, " oh im sorry I mislead you I just want to be friends " usually they will baable something about tring to get over someone or they been hurt before or we are to close I am afraid of messing up a good friendship.... Trust me dude she will let you know when you pop the question.

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oh yeah it is a good clue if she accepts and wants to bring friends along. This is not always a tell tell sign with this one she just may not feel comfortable with you yet.... This one depends on how long she has known you.... Pop the question she will answer it for you....

Answer 5

Its easy to mistake kindness as a come-on. Both guys and girls do it. Just go with it and speak whenever she speaks to you. Don't assume anything or take anything to any other level - unless she does. In other words: let HER make that first move ----> if its like that. If not, at least you don't make a total fool of yourself. Be there when she needs you and thats all. If it's itching you that bad, just flat out ask her if she's still taken and if not, if she'd be interested. But if you don't want to go that far, just be her friend when she needs one. Good luck honey.

Answer 6

it takes time to understand if someone is interested in u....a thing to look for is shyness....everyone can be shy at 1st but if the shyness persists after lets say a few months then there could be something to it...better yet, just ask

Answer 7

Is hard to tell whether a gal is interested in you or not. Gals have different characters. Some gals will just tell you straight away they like you. But some will keep it to themself until you approach them.

Answer 8

maybe she wants to sit next to her friend so they can share the gossip of how much she adores you too. give her obvious hints that you are interested and she'll let you know. but the way i see it, it could possibly be just fun flirting.

Answer 9

it may sound simple or even childish..just ask her if she likes you...overcome that fear...get an answer and keep being friends. let her know you're just curious and whatever her answer is is okay. but you have to be ready for rejection..not saying she will.

Answer 10

Ask her for a 2nd date. If she reported particular then she likes you. That’s the beginning up. ? you recognize what you could easily experience that If she needs you as buddy or destiny bf It’s consistently initiate with you. It’s extra suitable to ask c”,)