We have been friends for a long time and we have so many things in common, sometimes I really think the similarities between us can’t be just coincidence, I really want her to be happy and successful and although because of the distance between us I don’t see her much often but she’s always on my mind. The problem is, maybe it seems cruel and stupid, but she’s not pretty enough to me, and I always dream of a girl more beautiful but with the exact same personality and attitude and everything else, which I haven’t been able to find in the past 3 years, now I don’t really know am I in love with her? And should we put our friendship into next level? Or I’m just desperate ?
2007-03-28 12:07:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not in love - well, if you are I do hope your kind of love doesn't find me. Love is giving all of yourself and expecting nothing in return.
Just remember, when you're old and grouchy all you'll have is each other's personalities and memories. Personally, when I'm old I'd prefer the guy with the personality to keep me company versus the memories of the sexy man who can't hold a conversation.
2007-03-28 12:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by |sojourn| 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never know if it is really love unless you take a chance. But then you have to think wether or not taking that extra step will ruin what you have as friends. Most difficult of all situations. The sad truth is though that beauty isn't everything.
2007-03-28 19:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are in love with her. The fact that you think that "she not pretty enough" and fantasize about someone else with the same personality says everything. The upside to this situation? Now you know exactly what you want in a woman. Good luck finding it.
2007-03-28 19:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more of a commitment than a feeling. That butterfly feeling you get when you're with someone you think you're in love with is lust. Love comes into play when you stick around through the not so good times, or when you want to be with someone forever, even when they aren't "pretty enough". The butterfly feeling comes & goes....loves is what gets you through when the butterfly feeling subsides for a while.
2007-03-28 19:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No boy go after her looks are not everything and she sounds nice dictance is just an obstcal you will have to over come if your love is strong enogh then your met to be if not then be friends but if you think about her all the time then love is a describing word.
2007-03-28 19:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by babygurljam1995 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all, you'll KNOW when your in love, you just know. you cant explain how it feels. But if you dont think she is pretty enough for her then you probably shouldnt stay with her. Its not going to work out if there is not a good attraction. If you dont feel 100% percent about her then find another girl that you do feel good about. Dont waste your time and the girls time if you dont think it will work out.
2007-03-28 19:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by socal_rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i have to say is well, go for her. If you find deep in your heart that you really do love her, i think you should ask her out. but, as you are going out, influence her to try new things such as, go to the gym. take her there with you and saY, " heY! WHY DON'T WE GO HERE ONCE EVERY WEEK???" that would then convince her to look good. these things would then lead to what you are looking for.
2007-03-28 19:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur being to shallow the good looking girls or guys arnt alwasy the nice ones she may not be as beautifu las u picture her on the outside but i think she is justas if not more beautiful on the inside and i know that may sound corny but i honestly believe it follow your heart onb this one not your brain!
hope it helps
Janine
2007-03-28 19:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Janine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter about beauty. If you really enjoy being with her and if she feels the same way, then try dating her. Pray about it. God has the right match for you.
2007-03-28 19:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Staubie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself...if you get jealous when other men talk to her? when she has a date/boyfriend..how dod you feel about that? if you don't mind then you DON'T like her. Give yourself time to find the right person.
2007-03-28 19:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋