Do you think I'm still in love with him? Is there a chance?

Question

Ive been w/ this guy for a year and a half.I was 22 when i met him, he 23. and when we 1st laid eyes on eachother, we instantly thought it was love @ first site! we couldnt keep our hands off eachother, we completely clicked, could talk abotu anything for hours, was w/ eachother any chance we could.. we thought we were soulmates & plannd our future wedding, named our future kids, etc. we SO thot we were going to get married.1 of my friends hoever thout that we would eventually not last, bc we come from 2 difrnt bckgrounds.I come from a prety wealthy fam in CA, he's from a pretty poor fam in N. Carolina, went 2 the Navy, &hasnt gone 2 colege yet.I'm graduated & hav started my career.A year ago when that friend said that, I thout she was so wrong. But now,, I dont no if ive just grown up alot in the last yr or what, but i do feel difrently toward him now.I feel above him & I don't respect him as muchas I did.I notice little things like his corny, not witty, sense of humor, his (continued

his lack of vocabulary, where he's at in his life, his naivete when it comes to goals, his immaturity... I know he will probably get his degree someday, and I hope it will mature him.. How could I have been SO inlove w/ him 6 months ago and convinced we were soulmates, and now i feel like he doesn't excite me anymore?! I just don't feel excited or mentally stimulated by him anymore. Is this jusdt a phase?? Can we work this out and grow stronger eventually? Is itnormal to not feel as excited by your partner after a year?? i think of him more as a best friend now, i don't so much lust after him anymore. is this normal? we are currently on a break right now, my decision,,, so I can figure things out for myself. but I'm so confused.

Answer 1

time past and yes u have grown. thats normal. u dont see him in the same way. move on.

Answer 2

Just spend some time to consider it, you don't want to do away with something that you have invested so much of yourself into. If you do feel like the same after some consideration then maybe it's time to also consider if you want to move forward with him or not. I am sure your friend said what she said in a well intentioned manner but you don't wanna make such an important decision based on what someone else thinks and clearly thinks she was wrong about.

Answer 3

I think if you have to ask, the answer is no. Unfortunately that happens sometimes- what seems meant to be kind of loses its spark. It's sad but it's okay and it's a natural part of life as your life is taking you one way and his is taking him another. Take a break and get to know some more people. I think that fate intends for us to be with everyone for a certain period of time and for the time being, his time is up. If you are meant to be with him later on in life, then it will be. You just need to get out and see a little more of the world before you seal the deal with him, b/c you are having doubts.

Answer 4

It does sound like you are moving on.
This will hurt him more if you stay in this.
The loss of respect for him is a big one.
Be kind to him but move on.

Answer 5

YOU KNEW HIS BACK ROUND BEFORE AND NEW WHAT HE DID FOR A LIVING, AND SINCE IT BOTHERS YOU KNOW I THINK ITS BECAUSE YOU PROBABLY DON'T LOVE HIM AS MUCH ANY MORE. YOU HAVE BEEN DATING FOR OVER A YEAR, YOU JUST GOT USE TO EACH OTHER NOW.

I THINK THAT RESPECT IS ONE IF NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN A RELATION SHIP, TALK IT OVER AND DECIDE TO CONTINUE OR END IT THEIR AND STAY FRIENDS.

Answer 6

well i think your finally getting out of that blind love stage.Now the question is..Is he still the only person you want to be with and can you overcome his weakness.If not then it is best you move on

Answer 7

i think that you are still in love but its more comfortable now and its not new anymore so you are finding faults in him lthat you never did before....trust your gut feelings. if you broke up would you be ready to move on?

Answer 8

You need to move on, interest is lost.