Okay i am 15 and i have a very religious family but at this point i dont know what to do so I am asking you..?

Question

I am straight i think well...i dont really know. I like this boy named Jim and he likes me too but their was a point in my life when I didn't have much hope in the opposite sex, so i found myself becoming to the same sex. However I never had enough spine to explore my feelings. Should I atleast see what might happen if i were to get with a female? And also why are guys such dogs, not to sound ignorant or anything but I went out with this guy for 2 years i swore that I loved him and he loved me. and i know what you are thinking I am to young to fall in love but I felt so strongly about him. Anyway He cheated on me like 4 times and I took him back each time. Was I just really being stupid because after like a year of me not seeing him or speaking with him he comes out of the blue and calls me saying he misses me and he still loves me. What should I do? I still have strong feelings for him, and I am an B atudent so he isn't taking me away from my school work, just so you know.Help me plzz

Answer 1

OK, sure I could say your too young to fall in love, but I don't think that's right. I would say your too young to lose faith in love. This is an insane age for boys and girls full of raging hormones and everything seems like HUGELY important or your just gonna DIE!

Let me assure you, it's not the end of the world just yet....taxes and career will come later!

Relax, slow down, don't try to define yourself just yet, you have lots more to experience in life. Sure guys can be "dogs" and girls are often not better in my experience to be honest with you and I think the fairer gender is actually getting worse.

Still, take it slowly, the guy you think you can't live without now, is not likely to be anything you like AT ALL in ten years. Besides, in ten years, the guys will be more mature, you will be wiser, things will be SO much clearer to you. Be patient, and treat yourself with respect and dignity and expect the same from potential dates along the way.

In the short term....if the guy you have feelings for is unfaithful, but thinks he can keep you around with the rest of the harem, he probably will. Get over him, don't judge the gender by a handful of fools that haven't gotten a grip yet either. Move on and let a known fool go.

Good luck to you.....

Answer 2

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Answer 3

If he cheated on you 4 times before then it would be really dumb to give him a 5th chance to cheat on you! The guy used you & he will do it again. Cheating 1 time is unforgiveable, but some people will try to give the person a 2nd chance, but after 4 times, no way! Don't put yourself down by letting anyone treat you like that! If you aren't sure how you feel about girls, then you should do what feels right to you. If you find someone your attracted to, why not find out? Your family doesn't have to know about it. Your only 15, it's hard to know what you feel about guys, or girls, at 15. Everything is changing & your learning & feeling a million different things at once, give yourself time to figure it all out, it'll happen. Your perfectly normal, everyone is not sure about that stuff at 15. Just don't let yourself be taken advantage of by anyone who don't know how to treat you right! Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

The first thing you have to do is stay away from the boy that has used you already. He is trouble and he will mess around on you again. It is a good bet he messed around on the other girls he's dated.

Next, before you get too involved with anyone you need to come to grips with your own sexuality. It is very normal at your age to be confused. Until you know if you are straight or lesbian or maybe even bi-sexual don't get too serious with anyone.

As for what to try; follow your heart. It will be your best guide. Just avoid sleeping around with anybody. You don't need to get pregnant (sex with a guy equals pregnancy, it has been scientifically proven. You also don't need any STDs. Finally you don't need the reputation of being a slut.

Answer 5

Forget the boy. He is playing games. He really doesnt know what he wants. any guy that would stay away for a year, really wasnt thinking about you, no matter *what* he says.
Continue with your school work, and focus on being the best that you can be in life, and leave this boy alone.
Talk to him in a couple of years after you have fullfilled your life and your dreams. I am sure by then a nice, well mannered young man will step into your life and all will be well.

Answer 6

Straight, bi, or lesbian, you're clearly not ready for physical intimacy regardless. Don't worry, that's what college is for - to explore your mental, emotional, and sexual boundaries.

Your interest in same-sex relationships may simply be a natural curiosity, or it may be the start of a genuine devotion. If you turn to women, it will be because you love women, not because you are frustrated and upset with men - the view of lesbians as "man-haters" is a common misconception.

The more urgent problem is you and this jerk ex. Face it, honey, he doesn't care for you - if he did he would never have cheated on you, much less repeatedly. He's back and whispering sweet words because he knows you'll fall for it. Remind yourself that you are older and wiser now, and that your self-respect is stronger than your lingering desire. Tell him - and yourself - that you deserve better, and walk away.

Answer 7

Men are such dogs. See, when they grow up, nothing changes. But, don't hold that against us; its the hormones. And look at all that hair, just itching to grow out of every pore in our body. Do you know what its like to wake up in the middle of the night, scratching everything down there and find that the icky-poo fairy left something sticky behind? No, I don't suppose you do.

That's why we never call. We've got other thing on what ever free brain cells not drenched in testosterone we have.

Oh, BTW, he's just trying to see if you're still as easy to score on as you used to be.

What? What did I say? Well, its the truth.

Answer 8

Your feelings are pefectly natural. You were with him for two years and he is all you have ever known. That's why you love him is because you were with him for so long. You find out in life that hate grows to respect, respect grows to like and like grows to love. After all he's did to you why take him back? I took mine back 6 times but he never cheated on me. We are now married. Why take a cheater back when you know he's going to do it again? At least you're older now and your heart is already telling you that he will do it again. After all, the four times you took him back is proof that he won't stop. You obviously know what you need to do or you wouldn't be on here asking for help. Don't take him back because he's always going to give you heartache. Get with a woman or another man. Religious families don't matter as long as your happy. Good luck!

Answer 9

First things first, i would be very careful- i mean watch your back. he seems like the boy who uses you when he is bored-- either that or he is very fickle, and both of those qualities are not good at all.

Ok now with your feelings, it may be the fact that the only way to cope with breaking up (whether you are stilll in love or not
) is to keep on feeling for someone. since you distrust guys so much you feel that females may be your answer.
Revisit your feeling and review your thoughts and why you broke up with him. keep this in mind--" its better to love and lose than to never have loved"

your ex may have let you down but im sure you can find your one true love

Answer 10

I have a feeling, that you don't have a good relationship with your family, and it looks like
religion in your family can't help you, or else
you would confide this mater to one of them. What ever you decide, try not to fall
in same sex relationship,because that will show that you fell into a reprove mind,according to the bible,Romans 1:22-32. You are seeking carnality and are going to be in lots of trouble,without looking for them. What makes you think that in a same sex relationship you are going to have less problems, or none? I am 67; my daughter,
I know what I am telling you, God has the
solution for your problems, try him very sincerely, and you will surprise yourself, and even your family; with the outcome.
You are young, give God a chance.
Bless you.