She wanted me to stop dancing with other people which only includes my friends and acquaintances.
We met in a salsa dancing class and we go dancing regularly. I have had friends in the salsa dancing circle and recently she asked me to stop dancing with my friends and people I know from classes and from when I was single. These people are not anyone that I am interested in. They are just people I know.
I know that being in a relationship means compromises that you can afford, so I cut back on dancing with these people but she wants me to eliminate it all together.
She is hispanic and its very socially acceptable for this kind of request. She says she asks for a lot but she gives back a lot to me. This is very true.
But I do not want to abruptly terminate these small relationships just because she wants me to. Sure I will dance less with them but I think its unreasonable for her to ask me to eliminate it all together.
I miss her a lot but should I stand by my choice?
2007-03-28 11:40:44 · 3 answers · asked by securemailsystems 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you two talked it out to where you realized that she definitely WILL NOT compromise on this?
And how exactly do you dance.... it's not dirty dancing is it? If so, I can see why she's insecure about that.
But from what you told us, I think you're right.
2007-03-28 11:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend i am hispanic and i have to say one thing,runnnnnn i don't mean to scare you but it seems your lady has trust issues and low self esteem. she also wants to have control over you and the relationship. now ask yourself this question is she worth losing all your friends over and will you be happy, lets say four years from now when she has a leash on your neck and you have no freedom from being the person you want to be. remember a relationship is based on trust and honesty and if you know you would not do her wrong than she has the problem not you be true to your heart in what YOU want not what makes another person happy. it all boils down to balance, without that you will never make it with this lady good luck
2007-03-28 18:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by zenmenow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds insecure and controlling. And unreasonable. I also dance ballroom and have no problem with my husband dancing with others. It's just dancing!
PS If she "asks a lot" but "gives a lot"-- what's she giving you to stop having friends??
2007-03-28 18:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋