I have a friend whom I'll call "Shelby". She works in a law firm and, as a result, has to get dressed up. But the problem is, she insists on wearing dress clothes everywhere we go and for everything we do. Shelby and I had a Saturday lunch at McDonald's one day, and she came dressed to the hilt even after I asked her to please just wear something like jeans. Shelby didn't have to work that weekend, so it wasn't for lack of time to change her clothes, and she even had the nerve to suggest a wardrobe makeover for me! I was wearing a nice T-shirt, black denim jeans, and clean hiking boots, and to see her overdressed like that came across to me as arrogant. What should I do?
2007-03-28 11:31:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I wouldn't let it bother me. Whenever i see someone overdressed for the occasion or place I think one of two things 1. He or she just left work and hadn't had time to change. 2. He or she is desperate for attention. If it turns out to be the latter - I usually feel a little sorry for them. Imagine being so hung up on appearances that you constantly put that much time and effort into getting dressed - only to have people pointing at you and making comments behind your back. ( Which is what other women tend to do - unfortunately) The next time she suggests a wardrobe makeover for you - tell her you will agree if she will agree to go to a counselor for help with her self-esteem.
2007-03-28 11:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have a sisinlaw who is like that. For a backyard barbeque she wore a light colored linen suit (and ruined it), another time we were cutting down a xmas tree in the mud and she wore another linen suit and I heard some people comment and laugh about it. When we went on vacation with her, she changed 3 or 4 times a day and dressed to the hilt for dinner at Denny's. She is desperate for attention. She also changes hair color completely from black to blonde to red every 4 or 5 mos. Weird. I won't ever go on vacation with her again. I like to dress for the occasion.
2007-03-28 12:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can dress as she likes, and you can dress as you like. Neither one of you has the right to judge the other. But you might make a compromise, you cold dress up a little more and she could dress down a little more.
2007-03-28 11:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dale 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
either she doesn't have anymore clothes other than the ones she wears for work or she thinks it makes her a better person to dress that way. she has self image issues she probably needs help and your a good friend to tell her that.
2007-03-28 12:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shelby u go girl. She feels real good about herself and can afford it too. Being a woman she is going to be ready--When he comes. When u are able and in your right mind. My mom has ALZ-demon and has forgotten her female side. So i understand if u can do it and continue to smell good, look good, smile on your face. Womanhood still remember it and keep it. I find no fault with Shelby. Examine yourself.
2007-03-28 11:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do nothing..Some people enjoy dressing up for everything.I would be glad she does that instead of under dressing..She likes it..So what..Go to Cal. and you'll see she fits right in...You might take things to serious...Be grateful she isn't trifflen...
2007-03-28 11:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how you feel. But it sounds like this is her style, this is how she likes to dress. So if she dresses like that she must be comfortable. As like on shes confortable in what she wares i dont see a problem.
2007-03-28 11:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it bother you that your friend overdresses?
Ever hear of the word projection? The outer world is a mirror of what is going on inside of us. When we look out on the world we see a reflection of ourselves. What we don't like or accept in other people and the world is just a reflection of what we don't like or accept in ourselves.
What is it about her overdressing that bothers you? It reflects something in yourself that you are not dealing with.
2007-03-28 11:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend that rarely dresses down. I think that it sounds like your friend, and mine, need attention. The only time my as* is dressing up to just do something casual is when I'm desparately looking for attention. At least I admit it though.
2007-03-28 11:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
She is entitled to wear whatever she wants. Don't understand what arrogance has to do with it. Could just be a phase.
2007-03-29 06:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋