Has my girlfriend cheated on me?

Question

I love my girlfriend a lot but recently found an email from her to some guy that has left me heartbroken. This email clearly suggest that she cheated on me sometime in the past . But when i confronted her, she blamed me that how could i ever think this about her. As per her, it is just a date/kiss that she had meant when sending that email. She blames me of destroying relationship by casting suspicion etc. I love her and do not want to make a mistake. Can it be that she is correct? Here is an excerpt from that email:

"And most importantly, what happened between us was beautiful and spontaneous... and I loved it! (I hope you did too). So please, what on earth are you saying "sorry" for? There's nothing to feel guilty for, I felt great being with you and wanted it to happen as much as you did... and I want it to happen again when we meet (hopefully not too far away in the
future!). I didnt say this before, but Thank You! for making me feel so wonderful"

this is an excerpt from an email reply by my girfriend when that guy said that he is quite guilty of advancing relationship so far in their first real time together.

Answer 1

It sounds to me like she's trying to pose a problem just for an excuse to get out of the relationship with you. When a person explodes like that, it usually means that they've something to hide and that you've found out their little secret. It's obvious that her and this guy had a very intimate meeting at one point, and if you had any brains at all you'd be smart and find another girl who will be as loyal to you as you are to her. Don't let her think that you will just throw out forgiveness like pennies and think nothing of that email. Tell her that you both need the chance to find someone who truly loves you, even if it means her leaving for the other man. I'm sorry this happened! <3

Answer 2

Sweet sweet boy. Please think about the status of your relationship when this email occurred. Deep down, you know the truth. What led you to snoop through her email. Had an inkling, no? It sounds to me that your quite young, and that this girl is probably one of your first relationships. It also sounds to me like she has you wrapped around her finger too. It sounds like the guy felt guilty for a reason, but obviously she did not. It is clear that you love her, but my dear boy, she does not love you. At the very least, she should be upset that you are upset in having read this. The fact that she does not care or even explain or apologize means that she has no regrets and what is worse no concern for your feelings. The fact that you want to believe her and forgive her shows you are either inexperienced or blindly in-love. Believe me when I tell you this with respect for you and where you are coming from, "Don't be a putz!" Take what is left of your self-respect and dump this girl before she really puts you through the Cuisinart. Find yourself a girl worthy of your love and affection. Buck up, mi amigo, you are not the first to experience deception and pain. This too shall pass, but be the wiser for it. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Well, first of all, I have to ask how you found the e-mail, were you snooping? or was it an accident? Secondly, how did you bring it up? did you accuse her or just mention the e-mail and ask her to explain? Depending on how long you've been together, if you've never demonstrated jealously before, she should not accuse you of being jealous. MOST IMPORTANTLY- She is TURNING THIS ON YOU to take the focus off of her...I've dealt with something similar before...this e-mail is pretty straightforward...sounds like she cheated on you...I'd love to hear her excuse for this one...it better be pretty damn good...but understand...she's trying to turn this on you so you feel guilty when she's the one who clearly did something wrong. She's fighting offense with offense...making you think it's your fault, but NO...you don't know the deal for sure, but it seems like she did something wrong and the guilt forces her to turn it on you. You decide what to do...if your love is that strong, you can fight for the relationship...but I think you should end it now before you get more hurt. DON'T LET HER OFF EASY though, otherwise she'll have you by the balls for the rest of your relationship. Good luck!

Answer 4

Hunny, I am sorry to tell you this that's NO kiss they are talking about. There is alot more she is hiding, and if is was JUST a kiss she would not be so defensive about it, or raking you over the coals. She is trying to make this your fault and you are falling for it. I know from experience its time to stop all the CRAZINESS now, I know this must hurt you alot but she is not your soul mate and its time for you to move on so the right girl can find you. Good Luck and I hope you take care of yourself you seem like a man with a heart, and I ma very so it got broken, but with the right girl you won't even remember this girls name.

Answer 5

Your girlfriend is using her womanly charm to make you feel guilty for her wrong doings. Don't fall for it this time. It is clear in the email that you're not enough for her and that she didn't care about cheating on you, she will do it again whole heartedly, dump her already. Don't get hurt even more by staying in a relationship with someone who does not respect you

Answer 6

No matter how much you love her, don't put up with that ****. She already knows you don't have the willpower to break up with her, and knows she can walk all over you. She knows that she has you around the finger when she can blame her mistakes on to you, and make you feel bad about it.

I'd break up with her in a heartbeat, then pay a visit to her little friend.

Edit: The reason she is with you, unfortunately, is because she knows she controls the relationship. She knows that she can sleep with these guys, get away with it and still have you worshipping her.
Dump her ***, and try act as non-chalantly as you can, try to show her how little you care that she's gone.

Answer 7

( i ) Yes.. that girl cheated on you and had hot sex for which she seems to be so thankful to the guy that she is planning for next one.
( ii ) She is a bit+ch..if she would have been in love with you she would have accepted her fault and felt sorry & upset. She doesn't care for your love or bullshit like that. It will be really interesting to hear her arguments for this not being a case of bit+ch being in heat and having sex. Wonder how some people can think they are so smart!
( iii ) If she still tries to make you feel guilty, she is a scum with no conscience whatsoever.
( iv ) If you are considering forgiving her, think about living with a person for life who not only cheats but also doesnt have any feelings for your love.
( v ) Dump her. there are many good girls on this earth. You will get someone sweet who deserves your trust.
( vi ) And if you believe in "karma", what goes around comes around. Wait for her to rot, and then you can thank God / lady luck for saving you.

Answer 8

Yes, she has definitely cheated on you. In my opinion, it went more than what she claimed. I'm not surprised if sexual activities were involved. However, only you can know if you want to keep the relationship and work hard on it. To me, it's just not worth it. There is no saying if she'll stop cheating you at one. Pluck up your courage and quit. In a relationship there must have a trust element, if not, one can expect more troubles.

Answer 9

Well she is cheating on you man. You had every right to confront her. You did nothing wrong man. You didn't destroy your relationship with her..she destroyed it by cheating on you with another man. You did nothing wrong. Even though it will hurt you , you're better off without man. She said right in that letter that she wants something to happen with this other guy.

You are better off without her. Must be you didn't make her feel wonderful as this guy did.

If you need to talk man..I'll listen.

Answer 10

I hate girls, especially my girlfriend because she HAS cheated one me.

I try to trust her, but deep down inside I can't.

In response to your question, she's definitely cheating on your man. Its all right there in that email for you. You may be in a little denial and I know its hard to finally realize what the hell happened. But hey, its happened to me....

She lives 3 hours aways and I just feel like giving up. I don't know what the hell goes on.