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My ex fiance recently broke up with me because she said she felt bored to me and felt like she could never have fun with me. We were together for 6 months. I'm a really shy guy and the truth is that even after being together for 6 months I still feel shy to her. I'm not nervous being around her it's just that sometimes I don't know what to do to keep her enertained. Anyways a few days before she broke up with me she told me that she wanted me to change but then never gave me the chance. I know that this is the real reason why she broke up with me so the question I have is what's going through her mind when she broke up with me? Did she just get tired of waiting?? How can I fix this situation. Plz no move on answers because simply put I don't want to move on.

2007-03-28 11:22:40 · 17 answers · asked by Confused as hell 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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she probably thought u'd warm up to her after a few months into the relationship. I guess she finally realized she couldn't leave with a guy who is boring. I guess she wasn't the one for you, 'cos some girlz luv d bubbling guyz n some girlz (like mii)love d shy guyz.
U know uv gotta move on - So baby, whtz ur no.?

2007-03-28 11:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by osi911 2 · 1 0

I really think she has done you a favor, because I feel that a real woman will teach her man how to love her. When you meet a woman it is very important to be yourself but at the same time you should find out about her interests. In this case though, I think that the chemistry is not there. The reason I say that is because have you ever noticed how some women can get treated like a wet dog and they keep coming back for more. It's just something about that man that can't really be explained.

2007-03-28 11:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0 0

I'm sorry that your fiance broke up with you. But it sounds so much more than a simple case of how best your fiance can be entertained by you. Think long and hard about it! She asked you to change but did not give you a chance to make those changes. Write her a letter tell her that she's special to you but that you are shy. Tell her you want to do things differently but she needs to be more specific and tell you what it is that she wants you to do. Finally it takes two to make a relationship fun. So do not feel that the burden lies only with you. In my own experience if somebody really wants to be with you they would be by your side bringing out the best things in you.

Good luck

2007-03-28 12:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by blue3gem 2 · 0 0

Changing for someone else will not make you happy. This change must be because you want it. She wants to mold you into what she wants and what she can use, but if changing yourself in not in your heart then don't do it just to please her. Loving her starts with loving the person you see in the mirror everyday. But if she can not be happy with the you and your ways then, she is a fool. There are tons of women out here that want to date shy guys. So this could her dumb-*** lost if you decide to let her go. Good Luck.

2007-03-28 11:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by J J 3 · 0 0

I used to date someone that was like that, found me boring cuz I was kind of shy. Finally he got tired of me and moved on, then a few months after that I met someone that really liked me how I am. We were both kind of shy and reserved so we understood each other, and knew how to bring each other out more. We have now been married for 10 years.

2007-03-28 11:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Maybe she doesn't like the way you are being a shy type guy. Maybe she thought you lack of self confidence that you don't know how to make that relationship works well so not to bore her. Are you willing to change for her? If so, then woo her back again. Take all those shyness away in you. But to think about it, she is lucky coz you are trying to please her in a way you don't know how to do it. She should be thankful. Goodluck!

2007-03-28 11:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ann25 1 · 0 0

maybe you should give her a couple of weeks to think about this, and you need a little time too. I would try to give her a call and ask her if you could meet somewhere and talk about things. Tell her that you want to work things out with her you never know. but at the same time don't suffocate her let her have some space

2007-03-28 11:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by trcsouth 1 · 0 0

I know you love her and I know you don't want to move on. But your ex probably tried to change you and you can't just change a person you will never be happy. She probably did get tired of waiting. You could fix the situatio by changing. But then I'm not sure u would be to happy

2007-03-28 11:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by love_alw_693 3 · 0 0

This sounds.. ALOMOST like my situation.

I was with my ex for 31/2 years. We were engaged for almost two of those years.

At first things were great. He was so diffrent from any of the guys i had been with before. He was compassionate and all about the arts. He was career driven and really loved me.

But sometimes love isnt enough. Sounds awful.. but it's true.

after a while.. everything became so firmilier, and not in the way you'd want it to be. It was like everything was on a shedule.

mondays we went out to dinner... the same resteraunt... everytime. teusdays and wendsdays.. we sat in his apartment and painted. Thursdays we read, fridays we went to his cousins and watched a movie... and weekends were full of work.
same thing. 3 years.

As our planned wedding date came closer... i started realizing that I needed more. I never saw my friends anymore.. because almost everything we did only envolved the two of us.

We were both very young.
I tried to work thing out. We both did.. but in the end I realized that it just wasnt going to work out.

I loved him very much. but i need more. I needed spontanainty and stimulation. I didn't want to marry a man that I was going to be unhappy with.

A realationship wouldnt work out if ony one person was completly happy. they both have to be.

I'm not going to tell you that you need to move on.
you will on your own time.

But i will suggest that you should try to talk to your ex.
Try to understand complelty were she's coming from. it may help.

2007-03-28 11:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by ErinJean 4 · 0 0

I'm sorry but if she's not feeling it and is only willing to work at the relationship if you change your entire personality (not that she even gave you a chance), then you have no choice but to move on. She sounds high-maintenance.

2007-03-28 11:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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