Crazy for my best friend, does she like me back?

Question

I like my best friend but I have no idea if she likes me back. We go out alone, we talk on the phone every day (she calls me more than I call her), we talk about everything EXCEPT our love lives, we compliment each other and make each other laugh. However, she’s rejected me once in the past and our mutual friend told me a year ago she doesn’t see me as more than a friend. I initiate small physical contact but she rarely starts any of her own. When we’ve had dinner lately, I’ve found us staring at each others eyes. I know she used to view me as a brother, can that change?

Has she changed her mind from the past? Does she like me? What do I say or do to find out if she wants to be my girlfriend? We’re going out this weekend, I want to make sure I make the right moves.

Answer 1

You are locked in the "friend" mode, and will likely never break free. She doesn't even see you as a male, just as a friend. If you want romance look elsewhere, cause she will be offended and your friendship will be broken. You might convert, but very very few ever do...

Answer 2

How can you be best friends when you don't know if she likes you? Usually a good freind has to like you in order to BE your best friend.

Come on, don't you see the writign on the wall? Of course the girls likes you. Or does "going out alone", "she call you often and you talk every day" sound like someone who dislikes you?

The fact that you don't talk about your love lifes can be interpreted positively: She apparently does not want to send out any signals that would make you think she would be committed and not be free.

Well, she might have rejected you once in the past, but when was this? If it has been long time ago, chances are that you have more than a chance. Women usually like to be friends first and then get closer, at least, serious women, that is. Otheriwse they would be concerned just to be a quick one night stand.

I would not rely on your mutual freind's statement. He / she might have an own agenda, be guessing or wringly intrerpreting. It's all hear-say and therefore rubbish.

How does she react when you make physical contact? You say she does not start it, but how does she react if you startß Does she allow, return or push you away? In case one and two it's clear: She likes you a great deal, in case three she does not.

Og course feelings can change, I expereinced it myself a couple of times.

Unfortunately, the only way to find out (and enjoy) is to pull yourfeslf together, show some guts and ask her.

It's very mature and most impressing if you'd say.

"Look, I know you wanted us to be friends and I respect you because I like you a lot. But I can't help but having much greater feelings for you, and I get mixed messages from you. Do you think we might have a (second) chance or are you sure you want us continue to be "just" friends?"

Nobody cabn resits a lovely guy you shows his respect AND his TLC that way - trust me !

Good luck, you seem like a nice guy and have deserved it.

Answer 3

you sound sweet but have fallen in to the trap of waiting for someone to change , this is a wast you should show her this ? and ask her to answer it , hopefully she will say her feeling have changed. if she still does not want a nice guy like you, then let her go because you don't have her any way ! then really follow through cut her off or you will end up telling her its ok to be just friends and clearly you want more than that ! then to help you move on ask out every girl your eye lands on because this is a time when you will have nothing to lose:)

Answer 4

i have been in your shoes long time ago, and when i found out that he loves me not just like friend, at first I was in total
shock, then since i loved him dearly I had to be honest with him, so i told him I do not love you that way. We both cry-ed a lot, and then I told him, I wish I had feelings for him. Then years gone by. I got married. and also he got married. Till this day once i have not wondered what would of happen if our friendship turned to love from my side at list.
Just talk to her, tell her the truth cause you 2 friends owe that
truth to each other.
that is all you ever can do.

Answer 5

Wow that's a tough situation. I think you should talk to her about it- or you will always be miserable wondering how she feels now. Tell her that you respect that she told you she wanted to stay friends once, and you will always honor her decisions, but you felt as if things may have changed lately, and you still care for her a lot, and you were wondering if she felt the same. Something along those lines that gets the point across about how deeply you feel for her and at the same time shows that you respect her and don't mean to be nagging about it.

Answer 6

Well if she's rejected you once....MOST likely she hasn't changed her mind. Check for changes in her behavior recently, maybe you don't talk about love lives because she doesn't want to hurt you by sharing hers since she probably suspects you still have feelings for her. BUT you'll never know unless you ask....but if she rejects you again I would say drop it...obviously lol you don't want 2 appear desperate for her.

Answer 7

i really dont know. i had a guy friend like that. he would call alot and stuff but jsut to talk about his love problems. we always had great times and i did think at some point he liked me cuz he confessed. but at skool ppl said we were the perfect bro and sis.ask her how she feels about u and jsut tell her straight out that u like her and dat maybe something can happen but also let her know u dont want to loose her friendship

Answer 8

On occasion these things change from friendship to more but not often. Two techniques: try withdrawing a little and see if she comes to you or try initiating more and more physical contact and "accidentally" hook up.

Answer 9

if she is your best friend then you can talk to her about anything, so talk to her about this. tell her you have feelings for her and you want know how she feels about you. but be sure to also mention that you value your friendship and you dont want to do anything that would ruin it. be open and honest its the only way to find out.

good luck

Answer 10

You have to let her know how you feel again dude, then ask her how she feels about exploring a different kind of relationship with you. Be bold, don't hold back. Good luck.