My ex is pregnant with my child. 5 months. I am worried that She will not let me see my kid. We don't get along at all. How should I get control of this?
2007-03-28 10:59:24 · 16 answers · asked by sometimes I'm too nice 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If she wont let you see your kid, go to the courts and get legal visitation rights
2007-03-28 11:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that if it came to that, you could handle this thru a lawyer, the best option for the baby is to have both parents together. Is there any hope of a reconciliation? Could you do or say things more gently so that she might soften up, trust me, thats what every pregnant woman (actually any person, man or women) just to be handled delicately, even if she won't say it. She wants to know you will go the mile for her and your baby, I would bet money on the fact that she probably wants to be with you again, so you have 4 months of showing her that you are more than interested in being there for the baby, and that you want to be with her too, not just because of the baby, because of her. Just try, a baby has a way of bringing out either the best or the worst in people, so maybe you can make this baby bring out the best in you both.
2007-03-28 19:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really sure it's your child and this is what you want, then the courts will side with you. The courts want both parents in the child's life whenever possible. Of course that means you could end up getting stuck with child support payments too. Just make sure you get a paternity test done. Ex's can be crazy. Be careful. Always keep you & the child's best interests in mind.
2007-03-28 18:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by pixysnot 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard situation to be in but you do have rights and fair play to you if you want to be part of your child's life.
arrange to meet with your ex and explain how you want to be part of the baby life and try and not get pulled in to arguments they wont make you feel better and stress is not good for the baby
have a look on the web to see how a baby grows its very interesting and you'll understand more on what going on
try and remember its important you and your ex get a long as the baby is important now
if she does decide not to let you see the baby explain to her you will fight for access through the family court you will have to pay maintenance each week but they are worth it.
hopefully it works out for you and you get on better may be you will be even able to pick out baby equipment ask her what she needs and buy it for the baby work out names together my friend and her ex agreed that if the baby was a girl it would she would name her and vice versa he was even there when the baby was born they have had their arguments but they get along much better now time is a great healer
make sure your ex knows your serious she will admire you for it . when you do go for a chat brig a little teddy or baby grow for your baby
best of luck
2007-03-28 18:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and try to have a SERIOUS converstaion with her. Let her know how you feel and that you wanna be there for your child. It could be hormones or she might feel weird about things because the two of you aren't together anymore. That's how things are with me and my ex. Im 30 wks pregnant with his baby and we both feel weird when we talk. And we DID NOT get along when I first found out that I was pregnant! But we talk when we can.
ANYWAYS, try and talk to her and see what happens. That might be what she wants, but she doesn't want to make the first move.
Hope everything works out for the best!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2007-03-28 18:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by jmmartinez86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not fight her cause that will make her angry and some women use their children to get back at the father. You really need a lawyer and get everything settled so you will have a DNA test when the baby is born and visitation rights. Do not take her word for it because things can get really difficult some times.
2007-03-28 18:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by beali03 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try not to fight with her. Her hormones will be totally out of whack now because of the pregnancy so trying to fight will only make things worse. When the baby is born you will have to prove paternity and go to court to have visitation ordered. If she is breastfeeding you most likely will not be able to keep the baby overnight unless you can buy or rent a breast pump for her to use. She cannot just tell you that you cannot see your child. You have to fight for yourself and your child.
2007-03-28 18:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I would stay away from her as there is nothing as powerful as a pregnant woman. She will think she is protecting that baby by keeping you away and if you try to contact her she will loose it. I would wait till you know she is nearly due and go see a solicitor. They will instigate visitation for you so you dont have to see mum.
2007-03-28 18:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Legally you as the father have rights to see your child. I wouldn't worry about it to much because having this baby should mature her and let her know that it's not about her best interest any more. It's about your baby now and it's selfish and unfair of her to not let you see the baby. Good luck to you and God bless.
2007-03-28 18:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nyomi's Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you cant control it unless you want to take her to court - if she isnt speaking to you at all then you would have to have the child have a paternity test and then go through court to establish visitation rights and a schedule
2007-03-28 18:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by unimatrix_42 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋