My friends boy friend yells at her and like whines until he gets his way[and he is like in 10th grade and shes in 9th] and gets all pissy if she doesnt say that she loves him and frankly its annoying and THERE NOT EVEN TOGETHER!!!! He blames/blamed everything on her[i.e. him not going to school or him wanting to kill himself] and calling her a ***** b/c she "deserves it" and saying that hes gonna "have sex with her and it doesnt matter if she wants to or not" and he is like wayyy possesive and thinks i want her but DUDE IM GAY! SHE WILL NOT OPEN HER EYES
how can i get her to? and isnt this all some type of abuse?
2007-03-28 10:56:37 · 12 answers · asked by hoco_boy09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is abuse and its something she shouldn't put up with.. her being around him or being with him is making her lower her self-esteem. what you need to do is get her away from him.. its going to be a hard task but you've got to show her what life is like without the loser aka cry baby. on the other hand she has to want to get away from him.. you can do so much. hopefully she'll see.
2007-03-28 11:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Blake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is definitly abuse. It's illegal. It's immoral. You need some help.
I'm serious man, write this same thing (or more) to a counciller at www.kidshelpphone.com . If they arent accepting new posts just call! You need to know what it is you're exactly dealing with here and how to help her out of it before it's too late.
2007-03-28 18:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Cloudyheartgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For abuse to happen there has to be someone who lets it happen. This person is the enabler and is just as guilty as the person dishing out the abuse. You have two choices in life, either people take advantage of you, or THEY DON'T.
2007-03-28 18:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her be. You already told her what you think of her young bf. If she doesn't want to listen to you, let it go. You can't force someone who they want to love. As long as her bf does not hurt her physically. But it is only immature name-calling, leave it. Let your friend make her own decision. What's important is that you already gave her advice.
2007-03-28 18:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by mbm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would call it sexual harrasment if hes going to make her have sex when she doesnt want to...more so rape
and wtf do u mean by opening her eyes? is this guy like some macho dick?? why dont u stick up for her - or wud he beat the **** out of u? and jis to make him freaked out so he doesnt think u want her ...say u want him.lol sorry i said that but that would mess him up-and im not anti-gay or anything if thats wat u got outa that .i think gay guys r soo fun even to go shopping wit
2007-03-28 18:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually wat he said is actually sexual abuse and he could go to jail for it. Tell her to stand up for herself. Dont let him put his hands on her....look out for her. And if she wont do it then you should. He needs to recognize how to treat a woman bcuz one of these days hes gonna pick the wrong woman to mess with and she might kill his ***.(sorry for the language!)
2007-03-28 18:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is a type of abuse...but you can't force her to do anything. you can dry her tears when she cries or hug her when she needs it...but other than that you can't do much. she has to come to the realization that this guy is a total asshole on her own.
2007-03-28 18:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im no expert on the law but in my oppinion it is abuse u just need to keep telling her that she is better than all that crap and him so he shouldnt be apart of her life.
2007-03-28 18:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by CaRoLiNe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is, first talk to her then if she does not listen tell someone
2007-03-28 18:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by CEZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her stright on if she is a good friend then she will listen to u!
2007-03-28 18:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋