Im a guy 18 in pakistan and im a muslim and my parents have arranged my marriage with my cousin shes 18 too and a muslim pakistan girl.
Our country and religon encourages cousin marriage and most marriages are to cousins and mostly all marriages are arrange...
There is no problem in marrying the girl shes fine and beautifull and stuf i like her a lot and i am ok with my familys choice.but the problem is after marrying her what wil it be like wil be be talking right away and normal like we usually do.or wil it be like when parents marry 2 strangers.
Wil our sex life be like everyone else..wil we have a happy sex life and enjoy it.
I know a lot of people and countries dont accept it.but mine does and its my parents idea..im happy im marrying a person i like.
Im just wondering wil we be happy and have a happy sex life without anything wrong.wil we be just as happy as others.or more coz we like eachother.
Even if u think its wrong im just doing what my parents want.and im happy with it so its ok.
2007-03-28 10:52:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
unfortunately there's really know way for anyone to know for sure, but it's a good start that you at least like her. my guess is that at first it will probably be a little awkward, yes. you may have some embarassing and strange moments, and many times when you disagree or are annoyed with one another. but over time you two will become comfortable with each other than mature together. the sex life will be good if you work to make it and keep it that way. you will have to work at this though.
one of my best friend's parents were an arranged marriage, and their marriage is going strong and they truly love each other. you can't guarantee that you two will get along and not become frustrated by each others' habits or interests, but if you work hard to be happy together it is likely that you will be. it's a shame you didn't get to pick your own mate, but you can certainly work to make this a happy marriage.
2007-03-28 11:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by chickyonly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be happy in marriage you need to be sensitive to each other. That goes for the friendship and the sex. To make a friendship you need to take time, listen to each other, be interested in what is in each others' hearts. To have good sex you cannot rush, be sensitive & care about what each other likes. Don't put pressure on yourself, or each other. There is no reason why two young people who like each other will not have normal sex ...just be patient & work it out together.
You sound like a caring person. If you feel that you are ready for marriage then I'm sure you will be ok. In every marriage there are times of great happiness & then some days that are not so good but that's life & in general life is as good as you make it yourself. Good luck & may God guide you & bless you. I wish you happiness whatever you decide.
2007-03-28 11:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing in marriage is for both people to communicate. I would say that if you are nervous and thinking about all this, she probably is too. I think your marriage can be as happy as any as long as you respect each other and continue to work on the relationship.
Also, I live in the US and recently found out that a friend's brother asked for an arranged marriage. Their family is Indian and he felt like that was a good choice for him so his family helped him to arrange it. From what I understand he is very happy!
2007-03-28 12:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joy R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fear of the unknown: quiet normal. If you like each other then it should be good..Can't you ask your Dad or an Uncle about how the sex becomes natural to you both? Since you share a mutual respect, sexual closeness will become natural as you keep your communication open.
It's a shame your culture doesn't encourage more familiarity through public gathering so you can get a "feel" for each other.
2007-03-28 11:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by LELAND 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not from a country that proposes arranged marriages but we were like that around 50 yrs ago so i know a bit how it works and all.
i think u are very lucky to be matched up with a girl you already like. think of the marriages that are not set up... only a girl and a boy who like each other a lot get married .
u will be like good friends and also lovers. u already know each other a lot just things will be also romantic now.
as for sex life it will be better more passionate and more personal. u might not know what she likes in bed but u already know a lot about her charectar so hopefully u will have less disagreements. u already know each others faults and preferences in life so hopefully u will make a very nice and happy family.
are u allowed to talk to her now about the marriage? if so u can talk about both ur feelings and any doubts especially about the shift from family + friends to lovers.
i wish u the best of luck to u, ur girl and both of ur families :)
2007-03-28 11:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lara^mt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you get married, make it just about you and her.
Let everyone else be noise.
Ignore them - they're outside of your marriage.
Focus on her, and her on you - you two are inside your marriage.
Some may try to pull you this way and her that way, but if the two of you keep your quiet circle - look into only each other's eyes and block out the other people's voices in your ears - you will have a happy marriage and a very happy home - with everything good that comes with it.
Best wishes.
2007-03-28 11:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Stan W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you and your bride to be can answer this question, what really matters in a marriage is that you love each others, respect each other and have good and open communication...these are the keys to building a happy and healthy relationship that will last a lift time.
2007-03-28 10:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take time to really get to know her as your wife. Have good communication with each other and be willing to compromise when necessary. And always show each other the up most respect, even if you two get into a fight or are angry at each other.
As far as sex life goes, you and she will learn what you both like and dislike and what does and doesn't work.
2007-03-28 12:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can we answer whether or not you will have a "happy sex life"? Sex life doesn't come with guarantees, it depends completely on the couple. You might really like a person, but the sex will be crappy - and vice versa, you can have mind-blowing sex with someone you are indifferent to. You won't know until you try it with the particular person you're interested in.
2007-03-28 13:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For any marriage to work and be happy, even arranged marriages, it takes dedication and work from both people. Just remember to respect each other and treat each other well, and to let your love for each other grow naturally from that and a desire to take care of each other. Respect each other as individuals.
2007-03-28 11:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Katasha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋