Is sex before marriage so bad??

Question

surely there are worse things going on in the world. If one is happy then God would be ok with it. I don't understand how in 2007 some Christians can be so prim and worry that we don't honour God if we have sex before marriage? serious question so please only serious answers

Answer 1

here is the problem ..

we hear the word "marriage" .. you think of "sex" .. and religion think of "family"

we all love sex , but sex is not about sex
it's about life , children , new human beings

they need to have a father and a mother
they need to see something holy between the two
more than just sex .. or even love

marriage is a contract , like any other contract
but because it is so very important , religions worked on it to make it as best as they can for all parts of the family and society , but no one is perfect , you will find many weak points in every marriage contract done by any religion , but you'll accept it , as you accept every part of that religion

sex for sex , is not bad ... but it's not the way religion see it
sex without marriage is not bad ... but it's not the way religion see it too

the choice is yours , think about it
think about you , your partner , your children, and your society

and do what ever you believe is the best to do

religion is made to serve man ,
man wasn't made to serve religion

Answer 2

Looks like you have all kinds of answers.

I agree we live in a different time, and times change. What was immoral at one time is not in another. Some of still have the weight of religious rules to guide them others do not, and I believe can think things out for them self. I hate the analogy about buying a used car, just thought I would throw that one in the mix. Sex can be just sex, this day and age, and it can mean everything or nothing. If you are not in a committed relationship you are free to explore the sexual world. If you are in a commit relationship sex means a great deal more and in a good relationship I believe it is tied directly to Love.

Answer 3

God's laws stay the same no matter how far into the future we are

It's a law to not have sex before marriage so two people (a man and a woman - no homos.) can fall in love with eachother before they have sex so they know that it's real love. People who have sex before marriage do it with that person and just because they had sex, feel like they're in love, but most of the time, it's hormones - not love. That kind of relationship will be torn apart easily and have more hard feelings in the end, than a couple who waited to have sex.

Answer 4

Sex before marriage is a sin, according to the bible. Yes, there are worse things going on, and no, no matter what God won't be "ok" with it. I do believe it is forgivable though.

I was not a virgin when I married, but I wish I would have been, and if I could go back and change things, I would.

But I am forgiven, and that's the good news.

Answer 5

In my opinion, NOT having sex before marriage would be a bad idea. Of course, you should be responsible about it, but if you don't get to know someone sexually before you make a lifetime commitment to them, then you could be setting yourself up for a life with someone you are sexually incompatable with. Regardless of what some people might believe, perfect sex doesn't simply happen magically once you have said the marriage vows, and while practice can make perfect, some people are simply too different to make each other happy.

Answer 6

It is fornication (or adultery, if one is married to someone else at the time), and it isn't graded on a scale of from 1 to 10. Sin is sin, Also, God does not change, so what was sin 2000-3000 years ago is sin today and isn't dependent upon what other people (society) thinks about it. And, too, honoring God isn't being prim, it takes real guts sometimes.

Answer 7

God made sex to be something special that is saved for marriage. So, when people say after the twentieth time having sex with their boyfriend or girlfriend, "I think I might be in love with them," that's pretty sad.

Even so, if you were in love with your partner, but not married, you're giving away a piece of yourself you can't get back. And when you do get married, you can't really give all of your heart to him or her because you've already shared parts of it with however many people you've slept with.

Waiting til marriage isn't just about "do's and don't's", it's about what will make you happiest in your relationship with your husband or wife. :)

p.s., And as for those who say you need to see if your love is good in bed before you marry---if neither of you had sex before your got married, how would you know if the other was "good" or "bad"? Hehe.

Answer 8

Yes there are worse things going on in the world. There are also better things, making comparisons is not a way to analyze morality or you could both condemn and condone every single action.

God commands us to wait till marriage. He also says that to love God is to obey Him. We are to follow the wisdom of God, not the wisdom of the world.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with sex before marriage. You have to remember this, back in the day before we had all the niceties like birth control and condoms, whenever someone had sex back in the day, it was almost guarandamnteed that the woman would get pregnant, so to curb the amount of unwed mothers out there they decided to tell all the people that god said "thou shalt not have unwed sex" and all the people back in the day, being simple and stupid and believing everything that was told to them, complied.

Answer 10

Sex is God's gift to married people and it will be fornication if sex outside of marriage.

Adultery means sex with someone outside of marriage.

Adultery means sex with a neighbor's wife.

Adultery means violation of the marriage bed.

There is 12.6 million wives have given birth to children who are not the biological offspring of the husbands of those families.