If a guy is sexually inexperienced,How much of a turn-off is it when considering him as a boyfriend or a one night stand?
2007-03-28 10:47:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've only had sex with one girl so I'm curious.
2007-03-28 10:49:18 · update #1
Well, it's not THAT bad if you're not experienced. It kind of depends because girls need different things to arouse them besides sex - attention, affection, etc. Remember that the biggest sex organ a woman has is her brain - so if you stimulate that, then everything else you do will be a turn on.
And, it can also be fun to let a woman 'teach' you things. Things that will never hurt you: enthusiasm, courtesy, and always ask if something feels good - don't just go for your own satisfaction at the expense of hers... that will always be a mood killer.
Have fun!!!
2007-03-28 10:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had one-night stands. However, if I wanted to, I'd imagine an inexperienced man would not be what I wanted. I suppose if I just wanted to satisfy a sexual appetite with a stranger, then it would be rather important that he can deliver. Take this with a grain of salt, though, since this is kind of a moot point for me.
That said, however, it is entirely different in a relationship with a man that I care for. In that case, I wouldn't care about his past. Inexperienced, experienced, or virgin, what I want is someone with an open mind and willingness to learn and do. Someone comfortable enough with his sexuality to tell me how to make him and keep him happy in bed. Someone confident enough to learn what I like and turn me into putty with his touch. The willingness and open-mindedness to learn together, to please me, and to let me please him are a whole lot more important than how many women he's bedded before me. Who cares if he was Don Juan to his past girl friend if he can't make me happy because I'm different from her.
Anyway, that's my two cents.
2007-03-28 11:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its actually quite interesting because, a girl doesn't want to be with a man whore. Inexperience isn't a bad thing, then you won't know how bad she is, because you have nothing to compare her too... sex is about the two people enjoying the union of bodies, passionately or lustily... If you both enjoy it... thats all that matters!!!
However, personally... I would feel guilty because if you were saving yourself until you were married, and I was the one that broke that... it would be hard for me to live with because I would be afraid I would have been too much of a let down to you. Sometimes the first time is anyway because of how much hype sex gets... be aware of that also!
2007-03-28 10:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by allisonbowler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so not a turn off. It would make me feel better to know that my bf is sexually inexperienced. That just makes me feel like i don't have to do anything if I don't want to, and that I won't be pressured by my bf to do anything. I would like my bf to listen to what I say and not want to do anything like that. You shouldn't feel pressured into doing something you don't want to. If sexual inexperience is a turn off than you know that that person isn't interested in who you are.
2007-03-28 10:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by prettysweet!_1609 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None at all. My husband had only been with one other girl before me at 19 years old and I was 31.
What I liked was that he was very determined to learn and not be afraid of anything, but I am also a person who is not afraid to tell what I like or don't like, so the dynamics of that part of our relationship was and still is superb.
2007-03-28 10:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends on your perspective.
Personally, I have two takes on it. Sometimes, I love being, like, the one "who wears the pants" if you will. It's so fun to be with, like, an inexperienced guy and to show him things he's never seen before and watch the desire and all that jazz growing on his face...it's a really exciting feeling.
Other times, I like being the one who doesn't wear the pants...O.o Meaning, I like the guy to know what he's doing, to take control and such.
Both are fun. =]
2007-03-28 10:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by swadhi_rt_248 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest, I have always wanted to be with a virgin. Not for the fact that he hasn't been with anyone else, but then I could teach him what I liked and he would be accustomed to my needs by what he was shown. I wouldn't worry about it to much if I were you because it will all come in time.
2007-03-28 10:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it shows that a guy has self-respect and integrity. It's not difficult in today's date to get "experience" but if you respect yourself and if you have high standards, you may not fall for anyone who is willing to give you any! It shows that a guy is confident and doesn't depend on societal approval and sex to feel good about himself. This is ultimately sexy to me.
2007-03-28 10:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Du S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its very cute. Its not a turn off to me at all. but it wouldn't matter to me if he had or hadn't. but it takes self control not to have sex and I respect that and think that it would make me like someone more.
2007-03-28 10:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by Irish Ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cute!..My hubby,and i were Inexperience when we got together.I thought it was Really cute.Because we learned together as we went along..lol
2007-03-28 10:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋