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I am 14 and have never had a boyfriend or been kissed. I think that I am very pretty even though I am kinda shy around guys. I feel that I will probably never get a boyfriend because I live in a small town. Would it be weird if I got my first boyfriend when I am in college since it will be in a bigger city? Sometimes I get really sad when I see 5th graders that have boyfriends and I am in 8th grade and have never had a boyfriend. What is wrong with me? Did any of you people not have a boyfriend or girlfriend in high school? Does it matter how many relationships you had in the past to determine if you are going to get married or not?

Answer 1

They will come soon enough. I was always shy and kinda quiet. I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 16. (and our high school had 800 kids). When your time comes it comes. Wait for a guy that makes you feel special. It'll happen. I only dated 3 girls since then and I am engaged to get married to a girl that looks like selma hyak. You could date 1 guy or 20 guys before you find the right one. It may sound corny but you will know when it is the right guy.

Answer 2

You are still young. Many people don't date until they get to high school. It's not even unheard of for people to go to college having never had a boyfriend. It's not an indication of any thing other than your life style choices.

If you choose to wait until later to get a boyfriend, then you are not some kind of loner. You are simply allowing yourself to grow as an individual before you let someone else in. Good choice too, if you ask me. If you get a boyfriend too soon all you will have is distractions from the things that are the most important at your age. That being growing up and learning who you are. ^_^ You thought I was going to say school huh!!

Oh and when you see those silly 5th graders with boyfriends and girlfriends its completely for show. They don't even understand the basics yet.

If you manage to only have one relationship before you find someone worthy of getting married too you are a very lucky woman. So don't think having more boyfriend experience will help you get married. It will probably just let you find out more things about boys you don't like at your age.

If you just focus on being you, I promise a guy will notice you. If you make a serious effort to get a boyfriend it will backfire and you will continue to be without one.

Whenever you do have your first kiss don't let that boy stick his tongue down your throat. Try to keep it gentle.

Answer 3

Oh honey, it does not matter in the least bit how many relationships you have had in the past to determine whether or not you get married. Although some men are hesitant to marry extremely 'experienced' women. You are in 8th grade. Your parents probably won't let you date until 9th or even 10th anyway. So relax. If your giving off sad vibes, no one wants that. It would not be weird if you waited for a boyfriend until college. If you grew up around these boys your whole life its going to take time before both of you stop thinking about what he/she did in 1st or 3rd grade. Then bam one day one of those boys are going to mature (probably around 10-11th grade if that--LOL) and they are going to look up and wonder how they never noticed that you are very nice, and pretty. Then you will be presued. Don't rush it, while it does feel lonely to you right now, it will change. Concentrate on being nice, and on your studies so that you can still get into college. Don't try to be one of the guys, because you want to be a girlfriend not a buddy that they ask you about a girl they like. Its not the movies, the buddy does not always get the guy.

Answer 4

Don't sweat it. Once you're in college you'll see how vast of a playing field there is of guys. You're used to the small town crowd that you've grown up with for years, you'll meet tons of new people in college who will be so new and different from what you're used to.

Don't worry about the 5th graders, they don't know what they're doing. I know it still stings either way though. I had my first girlfriend half way through high school, and even looking back on it now, I didn't really know what it really was to be a couple back then.

Don't be in any hurry, you could have several boyfriends once you hit high school still, you could have many during college, you might even just meet the right person the first time around and not have to worry about several partners, great things will come to you and I'll tell you straight up you'll be a much stronger and stable person when the time comes. Just focus on yourself in the meantime.

Answer 5

I know what your going through. I'm 17 and I never had a boyfriend. The truth is it doesn't matter how many boyfriends your going to have just as long as once your in a relationship how trusting, honest of a girlfriend will determine if your going to get married. Don't worry about it, you still have time 14 is young. I know at time its hard to see other people around you with boyfriends but you'll get through. When you reach high school you may or may not find a boyfriend but don't get pressured into relationships it better to compromise your relationship status then it is to compromise yourself and your dignity, values and morals. Keep hanging in there because there is someone out there who will be looking to love you.

Answer 6

Dont worry you will meet someone, just dont get desperate and start doing things that make you uncomfortable just so you can have a boyfriend. Heres a great poem that every girl should read:

Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead they just go for the rotten apples on the ground that aren't as good but are easy. So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they are amazing!They just have to wait for the right boy to come along. The one that is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

Answer 7

Not something for you to worry about at all. You're so young. I didn't have my first kiss until I was...16? Same with my first boyfriend. I felt weird, too, but now I realize it wasn't important in the least/ Boyfriends are not important at all, especially at your age. Nothing is wrong with you. And no, the number of relationships you've had in the past mean nothing when you're old enough to be married. For some people, one relationship is enough to meet the person you'll marry.

Really, all you need to worry about is getting through high school. That's all that's important.

Answer 8

Why the rush to get a boyfriend so badly? If you really want one, just go up to any guy and ask him to be your boyfriend.

It does not matter how many relationships to determine if you are going to get marry. Some people marry the first man the dated while some people never marry at all regardless of how many man they have dated. Think Paris Hilton, she dated a gazillion man, and she' still single.

Answer 9

no it's definetly okay. I got my first boyfriend this year. honestly, boys are scum. if you don't like anyone, go you. my first two experiences with boyfriends.

8th grade...boyfriend #1 dumped me the next day, people didn't think we were a good couple.
boyfriend #2 didn't kiss me till 2 months into our relationship, and never wanted to hang out. i broke up with him 3 days before our 4 month. it was boring as heck, and I kissed him twice...and that's the only time I've kissed any one.

don't feel bad, it's completely normal to not like any one.
I mean, more power to you.

p.s. college or high school works. middle school is crap.

Answer 10

You won't be having any meaningful relationships until your atleast in grade 10 or 11!! And even then, it's no big deal if you don't have a boyfriend. I'm in grade 12 and I have never had a boyfriend, and I'm fine with it. Don't worry, it's just fine to wait until your in College to get a boyfriend, and even then, it's no big deal. All those grade fivers and eighters with boyfriends right now, are in relationships that will last a week, and that will mean nothing. So it's no big deal to not be dating right now.