my sister(19) i'm 16 is really sweet to me sometimes but when i see that she's rude to one or both of my parents my blood really boils i want her to be nice to everyone, should i enhance my relationship with my sister even though she's a jerk to my parents? i just cant put on a smile when she's nice to me and not to my family/parents, especially when she doesnt understand that she has to treat everyone with respect... what should i do.... i appreciate the love she gives me but i cant feel it back when i know that not everyone is happy because of her bad attitude!
2007-03-28 10:38:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ppl thanks for suggesting for me to sit and talk with her but i wouldnt even ask this question if it worked, i tried it a million times she got angry when it came to stuff like that!
2007-03-28 10:45:31 · update #1
Don't take other people's problems on your shoulders, yes their your parents but, they are old enough to deal with it themselves. She's your sister and i think you should keep your relationship with her separate from your parents. I think your sister has some issues with her folks and i don't think you should get involved with it. But do tell her how it makes you feel when you see your family (all of you including your sis) arguing or unhappy. Maybe get her to speak to you if you have a close relationship and try and find out why she has this animosity with her folks. But don't get involved with her argument with her parents as she will start to feel pushed out of the family and might start to resent you for not taking her side. You two are siblings and will spend the rest of your lives looking out for each other when your parents eventually in time die, so just try not to take side but do tell her how it makes you feel. good luck, hope this helps x
2007-03-28 10:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by sparkle dust 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to choose between them, honey. Eventually everyone you love will do something that disappoints you, and you have to learn to love/accept them as imperfect beings.
Try to understand things from your sister's perspective, and ask her why she acts the way she does to your parents. Maybe there is a misunderstanding or problem you can help her solve. Then explain to her that when she says these things to people, you feel sad and hurt, because you know she is capable of being so much nicer and more patient. Encourage her to try harder, for your sake.
2007-03-28 17:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sister loves you all. Even though it doesn't feel like it at times you need to hope it gets better. There's not much YOU can do except back off when she's disrespectful to your parents and listen to music or something. Your parents should let her know that they are the bosses of the house and she is old enough to go off and be her own boss of a different house.
2007-03-28 17:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Gumby 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its wonderful you feel that way about your family.
Realize that its her relationship with your parents not yours. Talk to your sister and let her know how you feel but dont push it on her. That will only destroy your relationship with her. Let her be her and you be you. Keep your positive attitude and hope that you setting the example will teach her a better way to deal with others.
2007-03-28 17:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by stayc 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister seems to be very angry for some reason. Sometimes, we just do not know why they are very angry. I think that your parents need to sit down with her and talk it out. I don't think you should have to chose and I am sorry to hear your that you're feeling so torn.
2007-03-28 18:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely don't turn your back on her. Stay close to her and find out her issues. try to talk it over with her with out her feeling like you and your family are ganging up on her. It is better to use love then hate. She is not the enemy so don't fight fire with fire. Make her feel loved. when was the last time you hugged her and told her you love her?
2007-03-28 17:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Strong but fair 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Let her know how it bothers you and how it makes you feel.
2007-03-28 17:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by MEESH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can love someone without approving of what they do or how they treat others
2007-03-28 17:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by meagan c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel
2007-03-28 17:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by D-mac 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋