I am 14 years old, and I guess you can say that I'm girly. I love hair, makeup, and fashion. My younger sister is 11 years old, and is the complete opposite. I always want to do her hair, pick out her clothes, and make up dances with her but that doesn't interest her, and it's ruining our relationship. How can I get her into girly things that I'm into so it can improve our relationship?
2007-03-28 10:11:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if you really want to improve your relationship you would grow up an accept that she IS NOT YOU...
2007-03-28 10:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
What you can do to improve your relationship with your kid sister, is accept her the way she is! Your not going to get her into girly things, until she is ready for that, which she obviously is not at this time. In a couple of years she might be more interested, but not now. I was a total tomboy as a kid and didn't begin to care a fig about hair, make-up or clothes until i was about 13. She is NOT you and she is NOT there to amuse you. Get off her case, and your relationship will automatically improve 100%.
2007-03-28 10:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a great relationship isn't always about having everything in common...sometimes recognizing your differences and appreciating someone for who they truly are makes a relationship stronger. I have two daughters..one who is a tom boy and one who is very very girly and has a "princess" room! The are 10 and 6 and amazingly have a great relationship because they enjoy the differences they have. But I do hear them bargain for time....my youngest agrees to go ride bikes in the creek with the oldest if when they're done, my oldest (who is the tom boy) will paint her sisters fingernails. Let your hair down and get good and dirty for a whole day with her then ask her to watch a girly movie with you....it'll work out, just try to find common ground in the fact that the two of your are different!
2007-03-28 10:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your sister, but if you feel as if you HAVE to, then here is some advice. Try to offer something to do something that she loves doing. And then after you two hang out and if you had a fun time, say,"Hey, we need to do this more often! Why don't you come window shopping with me sometime?" and try to convince her to get the outfits that you like, say,"Oh my gosh! You look cooler then ever in that!" Then, very easily, start trying the girly things on her. And remeber, she can be girly AND tomboy if she wants!
2007-03-28 10:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about you getting into tomboy things to improve the relationship?
Relationships are a give and take over time. You need to either look for other areas where you both have interests or work together to find the joy in the other sister's lifestyle.
2007-03-28 10:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Critter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't change her.. trust me. I use to wear the baggy clothes and shirts, and I never wore jeans that fit, they were always too big. I always had to have guy shirts and jeans. It's just a stage some girls go through. Me,, I was raised by my dad, my mother died when I was only 4 so I never really was able to get into the whole girly thing, I always wanted to do the guy stuff, like work on cars, play the sports guys so.. Only she can change the way she is. Don't even try it cause she'll ignore it.
2007-03-28 13:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone. there is something to be said for being a tomboy. she'll learn how to take care of herself. i'm 46 and have been a tomboy all my life. it's great. not everyone wants to be a girly girl. by telling her she needs to do her hair and make up you're making her feel as though she isn't good enough. and that will just push her away.you're being selfish. the only thing ruining your relationship is you, your inability to accept her for who she is and your lack of respect her decisions.let her be.
2007-03-28 13:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just like that the other year i was so ton boy but now i am a total girly girl
i would say to not try to have her do it all at once have a gradually become girly have her wear girly colors and a little lip gloss and just go from there
if you need any more help just e-mail me
it is liz9_chick@yahoo.com
2007-03-28 10:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do something you both enjoy.
I guess I'm in the same situation as you, my 11 year old sister is quite tom boyish too & I'm the "girly" one..
We just play sports together sometimes you know, like I like soccer and stuff too. I'm not all "I broke a nail" type though..
2007-03-28 10:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by MOVED! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
leaver yr little sis alone, she doesnt have to be like u. most probably she's doing this bcz she wants to be different from u.
dont let such a thing ruin yr relationship with her. look for other similarities between u and her.
yr relationship will be ruined if u keep on pushing her to do yr stuff rather than her own
2007-03-28 10:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Improve your relationship first, then ask her, does she want to be this way?
I was worse by the age of 11.
2007-03-28 10:18:09 · answer #11 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋