How do you do it? How do you cope?
2007-03-28 10:10:29 · 10 answers · asked by NiceGirl 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I spent almost 6 years active, and now I'm in the Guard. I don't have a spouse, but I have family that means the world to me. I called home every chance I got, and if I didn't have access to a phone (first 2 months spent in Iraq), I wrote letters...yep...old fashion snail mail.
Just keep the other person in you prayers and/or thoughts.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 10:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by War Veteran 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do and the only way I cope is to call anytime I can but the main reason is because I love what I do and just being a part of history. What most people do at home in a civi career will never be mentioned in history or books. But the job you have in the military can get you there like it did for those in the army who found Saddam or those in the AF who bombed Al Zaquarwi.
2007-03-28 17:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first time I went over there it didnt turn out so well. I was an "Action Junkie" and Volenteered for anything that would put me in "The Box". She couldnt take it so she left me for some finance desk jockey.
The next time I was put on Medivac/Tac Resc while I did get to see some action I also saw the atrocities of war. Thats when I figured that if I kept going at it like I did, my life expectancy was going to drop dramatically and one day my luck might run out.
From then on I would take it day to day, just remembering what I am doing, why I am here, and who I love back home. I also made it a point to write her any chance I got. I would have 5 or 6 letters that I would write before I even got a chance to mail them off.
Eventually it was almost like a switch. When I was working I was working, I thought only of work and of nothing else. When I wasnt working was when I thought of her and what it would be like if I was home. Not to mention other ways to keep myself occupied without getting in trouble.
But you cope because you have to. When your out there and your daydreaming its an open invitation to catch a bullet in your rear. You might be bottling up emotion for days or weeks, which some say isnt good for you, but I find that everyone has an allergic reaction to high velocity lead.
Hope this helps
2007-03-28 17:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by phnxfrhwk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the Army for 4 years. I was stationed overseas 2 times. It is difficult being away from family and friends. Just write when you can, and call. Its a rough life, but if you just get into your work, time will pass and everything will be fine.
2007-03-28 17:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The love for my husband, and the ability to not only be strong for myself while he is away but also for him. Patience with the military and government in general. Learning the ropes of the bases and learning what you can and can not do as a wife. I am a student so most of my day is taken by studying and hoping the phone rings.
2007-03-28 17:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the Air Force, and you have to be patient. Really, both have to be really patient. Both have to realize and understand what you are doing and even though times are tough now, they will get easier. Deployments aren't the easiest thing for two people who love each other, but when things get low, just remember, they will be home.
If you are a spouse or GF/BF of a military member, and if you need to talk, e-mail me, or you can even contact your other half's base/post and contact the commanders wife/husband, they should be more than willing to assist you to get through any tough times you are having.
You can ask my gf, she would agree, its not easy, but love conquers all.
2007-03-28 17:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by George P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do and have a wife. We have faith. Faith in God and faith in each other. Our relationship is based on trust and truth. She is an awesome supporter. It is not for the weak. Coomunication is key. Patience. Hope.
2007-03-28 17:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i serve in the marine corps. but it kinda gets easier over time you just have to call them alot (if you can) and the best thing is just sit down and talk with them and see how they feel
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-28 17:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by navy_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am dating someone thats in the army ....been thru iraq and now station overseas how do i do it i dont know ...i just do it because of love...
2007-03-28 17:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by txgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Patience mainly, you have to remember the world isn't perfect.
2007-03-28 17:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋