My b/f said that he'll respect it and wait till we're engaged but I want to wait till I'm married is there a difference if I wait till I'm engaged? If I do decide to do it when I'm engaged?
2007-03-28 09:54:59 · 22 answers · asked by Mir 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just to let you know i'll be 21 in 2weeks and Ive been with my bf for 7months now. I know he wouldnt pressure me to doing it now I'm just worried abdout when we do get engaged how bout if he does pressure me, I relaly want to save it till I get married. Since he waited till we r engaged y cant he wait till we get married. You know?
2007-03-28 10:05:05 · update #1
Good for you. Wait till your married. If the guy isn't willing to wait that long, or insists on eloping next month or something, then he's not worth it. A really special guy will not pressure you into doing it before you want to. Being engaged doesn't guarantee anything. You will be happier in the long run if you marry a guy with the same values as yours.
2007-03-28 10:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is to be conducted inside the marriage relationship. That is what sets it apart from all other relationships.
When engaged, you are betrothed, promised each other to spend your lives together. You are just waiting for the legalities through a wedding. Any 'activity' outside this relationship is considered cheating. The breaking of an engagement is sueable on grounds of Breech of Contract.
But engagements end; but then so do marriages.
If you want to wait until you are indeed married, LEGALIZE this UNION, then your intended should respect that decision whether he AGREES with it/understands it or not. If he throws a fit, I would seriously consider the relationship, as this would be a BIG red flag.
What happens if you have sex & he doesn't like it? Is that grounds for breaking up???? What happens if YOU don't? It's rarely the fireworks the first time like in the movies.
This sort of thing & many others are to be worked out within the parameters of marriage.
But only you can decide what is best for you.
2007-03-28 10:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I have been together for just over 2 years. I've been married before and have children. He's never been married and has no children. When we met, he told me that HE was saving it til marriage to my surprise! We've lived together for 2 years and slept in the same bed. Because I love and cherish him, we've never so much as seen each other in less than "jammies". In the beginning, I struggled with the idea of waiting until we were married. Eventually, though, I realized that he's waited his WHOLE LIFE for me. The least I can do is wait until our wedding night for him. Our wedding day is April 28th of this year.
If he loves you, he'll wait and he wont pressure you. And keep in mind that engagements do, on occasion, get broken. Marriages end, sometimes, too. If he's in it for the long run, he'll wait til the wedding night, not the engagement.
Good luck with your Mr. Right!
2007-03-28 10:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by climbsabout 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes, there is a difference! An engagement can easily be broken! You have not been bonded together in the eyes of the Lord until you are married.
2007-03-28 10:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ridiculous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna wait till your married,good wait!Just being engaged,doesn't guarantee you will make it to getting married,and if your dead set on being w/ that one person the rest of your life,then wait till you seal the deal!!
2007-03-28 09:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save yourself for marriage then that is good and your bf should respect that. If your bf is willing to wait until you two get engaged you might see him proprosing to you soon. Unless he really truly loves you he will wait along time if he has to.
2007-03-28 10:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference is that you will not have waited until you got married. It is up to you if you want to do that. If yes, then stick to it. I'm fairly religious so I understand why you would want to, but I also like sex, so I think I'd like to see if we were sexually compatible before we got married. What if he's bad in bed??? Then you are stuck with him forever!
2007-03-28 10:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Audrey C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can wait till your engaged then you can wait till your married.
2007-03-28 09:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should save it for marriage just to be totally safe. Who knows what can happen just before the big moment. You will have the rest of your life to spend with him, so why the rush? It's worth saving it on your wedding night, it becomes more special.
2007-03-28 10:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by psygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're actually married, that's what you want and you've made it this far so don't just give it up after you're engaged! Good for you, congrats on keeping it!
2007-03-28 09:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Halley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋