Having sex just to have sex? This boy wants to have sex with me? What should I do?

Question

Well I wante dto get to know him better maybe to eventually be in arelationship. So his brother asked him for me the boy got on the phone having me think that we are going to try to start something but he just asked to have sex with me. He said he won't tell anybody. So should I do it? I mean I want to just to do it to do it but it really goes against what I believe in: not being easy. Then again boys never want a real relationship with me anyways ( because I am not pretty enough maybe?) I have a large forehead but I am pretty all over. If I do decide then this will be my first time doing it just to do it. I have only had sex twice(and I was in a decent relationship then) This will be my third time. I mean if boys never want a relationship for real then why should I wait around.I see it as might as well do it then since no one really likes you anyway. So what do you think of this situation?

I am 16 years old. ans I know the boy doesn't even really like me he just wants sex.

Answer 1

If you are uncomfortable with the idea, which you seem to be, then don't do it. It sounds like it would be something you would regret and once done you can't take it back.

Answer 2

Only a selfish creep would ask you to do that!! It's mental rape for him to even ask! That's quite outrageous and arrogant if you really think about it.

If you do not want to be "easy" then don't act that way. Your body is not for just everyone to treat as they wish is it? Have some self respect and a backbone and tell that guy to forget it! NO guy is worth being treated like a slab of meat. If you are not cheap, then do not ever act like you are.

Looks are not what you should base your life on. I am sure you are probably pretty enough, but beauty is not what you should base your personal value upon.

YES, boys who have a good outlook regarding girls DO want a lasting relationship with a girl. Keep looking, you will find a boy worth pursuing and he will find you worth his time when he sees you are not cheap or easy.

Girls who are easy are not the kind of girls the good guys want to bring home to meet their parents, or to ever become a part of their family. That is important if you want the good life.
Remember: LOVE can always wait to give
And LUST can hardly wait to get.

It is better to truly be loved ,
than to be lusted after and then thrown away
like an old worn out shoe.
Don't get used.

Answer 3

( because I am not pretty enough maybe?) If you are thinking this and you have somewhat low self esteem, this might make you feel better, but it will be for a short period of time. You will have plenty of time to have sex in your lifetime, but in this case I think the risk is too high. I dont know how old you are but I have a pretty good guess. Sex is dangerous, not just pregnancy but the STD rate is soooo high. I had a 15 year old step daughter who got genital warts from some random guy. Now she will have that forever, and possibly give it to anyone else she has sex with. Not to mention the embarassment of having an STD. Dont do it for the wrong reasons. Find happiness somewhere else.

Answer 4

First of all you are pretty the way god made you. Never under estimate your beauty. You have to be positive about your image because if you are not why would the boys think any different. A strong, positive, and loving personality is the best way to go. That way you will start getting attention from guys that want to have a relationship with you instead of just having sex. Think about it, everyday you get up take a shower clean yourself and look good just so you can let some idiot use you as a peace of meat. Does that make you feel good about yourself. I didn't think SO......
You want positive attention start thinking and acting positive.

Answer 5

Well i don't know how old you are but..Sex comes with consequences. Here are 2 majors... STDs, and pregnancy... Are you sure your ready sure u r ready for a baby can you afford one (your parents arnt gonna want to raise your baby they have already raised you.) And STDs cant be gotten rid of...you can die from these im not joking...look it up.

Dont think this isn't a big deal just becuz your not pregnant now doesn't mean you wont be your 3rd time...And you might already have STDs!

Just remember YOU WILL BE SORRY!

Answer 6

i DONT EVER wanna hear you say that again. u don't just do it with anyone, if u don't wanna seem easy, then why is it even crossing ur mind. why does it matter? some guy will love u (ur prob too younge to be thinking about love anyway) n im sure u are gorgeous, so no don't do it. most guys are graet but sometimes u come across scum, like some i womt say. n they will always make u question ur beliefs, n i swear if i hear u say something like that agian... sweety ur better than that!

Answer 7

First of a cut side way bangs to reduce your large forehead then if and only if you want sex then do it he is asking for a reason maybe he thinks you are pretty or maybe he thinks your easy which is your business either way do it for you

Answer 8

well im not one of these people answering to get points i want to help.Ok if u want to have sex u should , its nature. If u want to have sex with a guy just for the sex then u should do it , its normal and u shouldnt care , there is nothing wrong with having meaningless sex.Hope this helped and also a big forehead is a sign of beuty , girls with big foreheads mostly are , most models have large foreheads.

Answer 9

Absolutely not!! Come on girl, have some class-don't let him use you! You must be young if you think that nobody will want a relationship with you, that stuff comes with time, and it WILL happen. Sex is for marriage.

Answer 10

NO! NO! NO! Do not have sex with this boy. You deserve better than what he is offering. So often girls give themselves to unworthy boys and men. Your body is temple. Respect it and nourish it. Never let a boy or any body tell you how to use your body.