We and my girlfriend wants to get married in 2 years. Right now I'm 18 and she's 19. I will be 21 and she will be 21 too. We have known each other for about 2 years now and have been going together for about almost a year. We both come from different worlds. She's white and I'm black. To see a pic of her you can go to http://www.myspace.com/bigcheweyme and she is my first friend on there. I love her so much. What do you think. Should we get married or should we wait.
Please mature answers please or you will get reported.
Thanks in advance.
2007-03-28 09:34:06 · 15 answers · asked by Brandon S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not trying to make the black/white thing an issue. I still love her no matter what. She means everything to me and I told her that I wanted to wait at least until I'm finacially stable.
2007-03-28 09:47:08 · update #1
If your truly in love, and in a position (financially, emotionally, etc) to get married now and that's what you both want, then do it. At 18 your consenting adults, and make your own decisions, The pro to waiting is if you love each other now....you should still love each other then. I do however think it's better to get married than be unmoral and live together playing marriage instead of making the actual commitment. White/black?!? It's only an issue if you guys make it one, who care what everyone else thinks, this is the 2 of you, and your guys' decision! Good Luck!
2007-03-28 09:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you still have 2 years to figure it out. 21 is a little young, but at that point you'll have 4 years invested and you'll know a lot more about each other for sure. I would wait at least another year to even start thinking about it, you can get engaged and have a year to plan. At 21 life changes a lot. When you can legally drink, u'll both probably more inclined to go out more and it can definitely change the dynamic of a relationship if one person is more into partying than the other.
But if in a year you're still questioning it, you may want to take a step back and figure out why. When it's right it feels right, and you'll know....
2007-03-28 09:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask total strangers if you should get married, then you should know that the answer is no. Neither one of you is really ready to even consider marriage.
I think that you should both wait until you are a little older and have been together longer.
If your still together once you've gone to college and finished your schooling, then chances are good that you'll be ready to get married. Not before then. Relationships always seem honkey-dory at your age and like they will last forever because you love each other. That's not always the case. Wait.
2007-03-28 12:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change and you guys need to wait until you are older to see if you can still make it together. You may think you can see clearly right now, but believe me, you two do not fully know your selves right now. I am not saying you two will not be happy, but at the sametime I have never known a person who has had the same outlook on life that he has had since he was 18 (in a possitive way). If you two are ment to be together, then you will be. Does it really matter if it is in two years or five?
2007-03-28 10:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Maria D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly with you posing the question to people, that shows that your not ready for a marriage, if you had really felt like she was the one you would have given her a ring and started making plans, but you can't predict what will happen in the future, but with you raising questions about difference in race and your age, its better to wait. And yes a mixed marriage is harder.Just enjoy each other and see where the romance goes, at your age you really don't need a serious idea such as planning marriage. Answered by magic mans wife
2007-03-28 09:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by magicman116 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At least you're waiting versus some folks who are talking about getting married after 3 weeks and 6 months....by then you both will have matured to a point where you're ready to handle the responsibility.
2007-03-28 10:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if u both love each other dearly, and want to spend the rest of ur lives together then yes. If u sont feel that it is rite to get married rite now then u should probably wait.
2007-03-28 09:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you're posting a photo of her on here...not like her looks matter for advice.
I would wait until you've decided that you're done with your education. Try to make sure you're somewhat "stable".
If you wait 2 years at least you can save money.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 09:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush??
you can still be together without being married...
You both have a lot to experience and see, goals to achieve...why not do that together before you get married? See the world, meet tons of people...sheesh. Kids always wanna rush to be grown...
2007-03-28 09:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by mochajavalatte25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all...no one is requiring for you to marry someone..you only do this if you REALLY WANT to..you cannot force yourself..just ask yourself..do you want to spend your life with her? can you see yourself not seeing anyone else but her..
plus your too young to think of this..go out ENJOY!! once your married it's all about resposiblity and obligations..at that age 21? man enjoy life...Unless your 100% sure..you might want to join a sort of temptation island to be sure..but just take your time..get married when your like25
2007-03-28 10:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by hypnos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋