I have to walk with my head down, i can't sit or stand next to a male or speak to one, i don't hangout with friends ( he doesn't like them) He gets in bad moods and can treat me like crap but when im emotional about anything he gets mad. If i cry he yells at me and says stop crying or im hanging up/leaving. He says if he thinks im looking at another guy he'll break up with me. Its okay for him to do things and raise his voice but whenever i do that it's not acceptable. I get screamed at and he is just way too jealous. In my head i know that leaving him would be the right thing to do, but i love him. He is too stubborn to talk to about this. If i talked to him about it i would never see the end of it. All my friends miss me and i miss them too!! spring break is coming up which is deffinetly triggering this jealousy. He still brings up my past and things that happened last year and years previous to that! It is rediculous. I wish i could just talk to him about it...
2007-03-28 09:30:46 · 14 answers · asked by yj12491 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know how i feel about the situation sis...
email me or get on messanger... we can chat there. (do i need to make a road trip?)
Remember what i told you. hub bub says the offer still stands!
2007-03-28 12:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kynnie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something...you may love him, but for the person he was when you fell in love with him. I was in a relationship like that for 5 yrs. and it turned physically abusive, after the years of emotional and mental abuse. I have a beautiful daughter from my ex. but nothing more than that. The pain and agony is with me every day and i no longer feel as though i can trust people. My advice to you is get out why you can. You are your own person, and can think for yourself, therefore, he doesn't need to be making these decisions for you. He is only controlling you and trust me, it will get worse. It doesn't go away. I learned the hard way, you can't change someone, they can only change themselves. To this day my ex is still that same abusive person, but denies it. He says he doesn't have a problem. And when he was arrested, he told the cops, "I am a man, and am allowed to do this. She is mine." This man is not worth your time, and you deserve so much better. Don't be scared to be on your own because when the time is right, the right one will come along and find you and love you for you. Best of luck to ya.
2007-03-28 09:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by raiyn4502 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one serious question for you---why? Why would you tolerate being treated this way? No matter how much you THINK you love him, being emotionally and verbally abused is never something anyone should live with. You don't deserve it! TRUST NE---it's not worth it. HE WON'T CHANGE--THE ABUSE IS COMING FROM A PROBLEM WITHIN HIM--NOT YOU--HE ISN'T EMOTIONALLY SECURE--HE NEEDS TO GET oVEER HIS INSECURITIES AWAY FROM YOU BEFORE HE CAN BE IN A healthy RELATIONSHIP WITH ANYONE. God wants you to be loved not controlled and abused. You should want the same thing....if you feel you deserve this treatment---you also need to figure out why.....REMEMBER GOD wants you to love yourself first-----and treat everyone as you should be treated.
YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS.......
HE WILL AND I GUARANTEE AT SOME POINT BECOME PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE
He doesn't have the control over his own emotions and insecurities---and HE WILL BLOW one day----if he doesn't get his way.
GET OUT OF PRISON NOW!!!!!!!!!!!HERE'S YOUR GET OUT OF JAIL FREE CARD----now run! And have some fun!
2007-03-30 02:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by 1111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away, far away!
You are not in a relationship, you are in jail!
Jealousy is very ugly, and absolutely no good will come from this.
You may feel that you love him, but you need to start seeing a counsellor so that you can figure out why you are with someone that treats you this way.
Everybody on this earth deserves to be treated with decency and respect - this includes you!
Please, get help!
2007-03-28 09:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Calluna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the definition of an emotionally abused person. Get out of the relationship. Seek help either professional or just from a friend.
Do let yourself be treated any differently then you would treat someone else, and gathering from your post you don't treat him like he treats you.
2007-03-28 09:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by jesse d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okai my advise for you is that love is not jealous... if he is too jealous there's something wrong with him in your relationship... TRUST is one of the things in the relationship that is based on, if there's no trust then why be in a relationship... Also communication is another, you guys seems like you dont have that at all.. if you guys did there shouldn't be much problem... you understand him but he doesnt understand you... wat kind of relationship is that... you need to think of it if his the right one he wouldn't treat you like that... probably his the one doing something behind your back thats why he is too jealous well i think you know that if his the one truly meant for you, there shouldn't be jealousy in your relationship!!!
2007-03-28 09:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hype 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well fist off hes not jelous hes controlling, and most of the time when guys are controlling its becaus ethey have something in thier past they regret or, they have done something they dont want you to do..... if your scarred to talk to him, or he won't then just start slowly doing things you use to, and if he doesnt like it, he doesnt love you....i understand that you may like him alot, but love is choosing the highest good for one another, and what hes doing isnt choosing the best for you, hes making you miserable and no one should be treated like that. im sorry and i no what your going through i was in a relationship like this but i got out of is thank god, he treated me like crap, and i couldnt do anything i wanted to do,... so i finally convinced myself it wasnt love, and now i am with my wonderful fiance of 2 years.... i hope my story was a little motavation, because i promise there is someone else out there for you. best of luck!!!
2007-03-28 09:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by luluu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously......LEAVE HIM. He has serious issues and no one can change that. I don't think you love him. You're afraid of him. Don't even threaten to do it. Just do it before you get yourself hurt or killed. Just because he's not hitting you doesn't mean he's not being abusive. He's an @sshole and you deserve to live your life and be happy. The hell with him.
2007-03-28 09:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by ExtremelyGruntled_82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE THING IS THAT YOU COULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT.. DONT BE SCARED.... YOU GUYS ARE A COUPLE.. TRUST EACH OTHER.. TELL HIM EXACTLY EVERYTHING YOU WROTE DOWN HERE .. THAT UR GETTING TIRED OF IT... HE WILL BE LOSING A GOOD THING IF YOU CAN PUT UP WITH ALL OF THAT! TELL HIM YOU REALLY LIKE HIM AND YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE HIM EITHER... BUT HE NEEDS TO BACK OFF A LITTLE!
2007-03-28 09:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by iVONN3.. DUH! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call the cops. get a restraining order. its just a matter of time before he becomes physically abusive by the way you described it hes already emotionally and verbally abusive.
2007-03-28 09:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋