I am dating this girl and one her guy friends just broke off his enagement. Now he wants to spend more time with my girlfriend. She told me that she thinks he likes him but wants to be there for him because he is having a hard time dealing with the breakup. I question his motive but do not want to seem like a jealous boyfriend. Any advice?
2007-03-28 09:26:43 · 7 answers · asked by j j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi jj ...well, i have been through this before...oviously your girlfriend loves you otherwise she would not of told you what she thought about him liking her...but you have to trust her..most male friends will turn to a female friend because they dont want to look silly infront another male..if he is upset then she needs to b there for him but if he gets too clingy and starts doin the whole hand on leg thing then its time to say gdbye...dont let him get to close and just tell you girlfriend that u r ok with it but tell her if she thinks he is ever being too clingy or touchu feely tell her to tell u! and dont let him have the sympathy vote! xx
2007-03-28 09:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by xfrancescax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there man, and it sucks. I would question his motive too. Very rarely can a guy and a girl "just" be friends. All too often one of the people has "more than just friends" feelings, even if they don't admit it.
When he hangs out with her try to work it so that you come along too "so you can get to know her friends" and hang out as a group. Don't be the jealous boyfriend, but make sure there's no funny business going on. If there's something shady going on, either your girlfriend or the other dude will really hate the idea of you coming along. If they are legitimately just friends, they shouldn't have a problem with you hanging out with them as a group. He should also get the hint that it's lame of him to do that when she's dating you.
Also when you talk to your girlfriend, thell her the truth, that you trust her, but not necessarily him. Just tell her that you've known way too many guys...
It's the truth too, I am a guy, but that just means I know how guys think well enough to not trust their intentions with my girlfriend.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 16:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by metamer6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man i'm kinda in the same boat here. It's hard, but just talk with her. She going to have to be there for her friend. If she loves you she will understand where you are coming from and will keep it to a few chats. And you don't have to worry if she loves you she will not even look at him that way.
2007-03-28 16:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is this... it's a hard situation because everyone is different. every man and every woman is different. sometimes a man just really needs their good "girl-friend" to lean on when times are rough, but i wouldn't know your specific situation, because i mean, for me, i have a best guy friend and he always comes to me when things are rough, and we're very close, and i can sense my fiancee gets a little protective, but he knows its nothing more than friends, but with you, can you say to yourself that they're only friends? think about that and you'll have your answer... :) Good luck sweetie...
2007-03-28 16:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this same story is why my cousin is no longer w/his ex-wife b/c she was helping out a "friend" I would say I don't care if I sound jealous. I don't want you hangin w/this guy alone. Man up
2007-03-28 16:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by looking4answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her, come clean so that when it happen you won't be looking like dummy, don't ask her in a mean tone, ask her in a very gentle and comforting voice and make her realize why you said so.
2007-03-28 16:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u try and help her work it out
2007-03-28 16:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋