you until you have your own child? Do you wish you had done more for them?
2007-03-28 09:17:45 · 11 answers · asked by Geronimo5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately, they are no longer around, and I find it so sad....
2007-03-28 09:36:20 · update #1
When I graduated from high school (just two short years ago), I moved out of my house immediately and started living on my own. I have already begun to realize that I never appreciated my parents enough for everything they have done for me. I now truly believe that when they punished me or didn't let me go to "that party", it was out of love and they were honestly trying to protect me. I feel so horrible for not showing them the love and respect that they deserve - I know that all teenagers resent their parents for a while, but I wish there was a way for me to show them that I really do appreciate them.
I'm sure that when I have children of my own, I will come to understand even more fully how much they did for me that I didn't quite appreciate or comprehend when I was younger.
2007-03-28 09:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Delvala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't take parent-hood, just growing up.
Nearly everyone realizes this at some point in their lives.
But then, wouldn't it be pathetic for, say, an 8-year-old to continually be grateful for everything their parents do?
I mean, the child simply finds themselves in this world, and so takes their parents for granted, and expects to have their needs met.
If the parents don't do for them, that means something is very wrong, doesn't it?
Young uns are incapable of grasping what it takes to care for them. How could they get it? Theirs minds don't have what it takes to understand, which is how it should be.
But when you grow up, have responsibilities, and take a look back, you realize much of what they went through.
I regret having been bratty (not that I was a total brat, but, you know, when I think of poor Dad coming home to my brother and me bickering all the time -- it's a wonder to me he didn't lose it).
I'm sorry they aren't still around for you to let them know that you now get it.
Some day those little critters of yours will come to the same realization -- we all do, unless our parents were true monsters.
I have no regrets on that score with my Dad (no longer here), as he knew I knew.
It does make me happy when I can do things for Mom -- who's still around and kicking (or, rather, charging around as though she WEREN'T in her 80s).
2007-03-28 20:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. I feel the same way, too. I'm sure that your parents felt the same way as they had their own family!
It's especially hard if your parents are no longer available to give a hug to and say "thanks!".
I don't know about you, but I didn't become a parent so that 18-30 years down the road my kids would owe me a huge "thanks!". The best way you can honour your parents is take all the good that they taught you and use it in raising your own children. Your thanks to them can be a legacy of a loving and caring family that will be carried on by your children. Pass down all the wonderful stories to your kids so that they know the amazing, sacrificing ancestors that they had.
I'm sure they are proud of you and never once wondered why you didn't say "thank you". Just as your children do for you, you brought a ray of sunshine into their day - that was thanks enough.
2007-03-28 17:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Calluna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, typical for youths nowadays ... and most youths for that matter. MY Siblings and I did appreciate our parents a lot (mainly because our father was a Paraplegic WWII Veteran who did work and bring home income and our mother was a Speech Therapist/Teacher and also supported the family -- plus, with them being 1st Generation American .. we were well aware of needing to SUPPORT elder family members (which passed on when we were still children).
When we all entered Active Duty with the Military, they kept going, and ... unfortunately, as very young adults, we lost them both in one accident. That is a regret .. because they NEVER saw us gain rank, get our degrees and yes, succeed in life despite the obstacles in our way.
MY Own children (who are now adults and living independently -- young adults) DEFINITELY DO NOT APPRECIATE the Sacrifices that I MADE as a Long Term Single Parent (and one who had to leave everything behind to FLEE the Short Disaster of a Marriage to an Abusive, Violent, Sociopathic Ex). They STILL treat me with disrespect, and yes, it is difficult to bear .. but ... eventually ...
THEY WILL REALIZE what I did have to SACRIFICE to make sure that they GREW to become adults (since I fled with them to avoid having EITHER of us killed at the hands of the ex). They DO NOT APPRECIATE the fact that MY INCOME was the ONLY income, and yes, I did NOT take care of myself or let myself have anything NOT necessary during the time I was raising them ... because raising children is an AWESOME Responsibility (one I took on willingly, and yes, as a SOLE parent because the Ex was also a deadbeat).
SOONER or LATER .. they WILL realize their error ... mainly because they will have to deal with raising their own children (when they have them). THAT will be the key.
2007-03-28 17:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is truly said that God can not be everywhere that is why He created Parents.
I love my parents and will always do. I keep on saying everyone that parents are the only 2 people in this world who love you selflessly without thinking about them.
As my love to them, I wrote a few lines for them. You can read it and I am sure you will feel the same way as I feel for them.
http://meetasaran.blogspot.com/2007/02/angels-from-god-our-parents.html
http://meetasaran.blogspot.com/2007/02/how-can-we-forget.html
I like when you say that you appreciate the sacrifice by your parents.
God Bless.
2007-03-28 17:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by m_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate very much what my parents did for me and my siblings. They showed me the importance of having work ethics. They instilled in me the essence of having family values that I follow through with my own children. I set as examples so my children will have guidance. My parents taught us to always lead and not follow.....I am very grateful for having been through my parents struggles, and sacraifices because its has made me become the person, woman, mother and wife I am today......
2007-03-28 16:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what growing up does for us. We never know what our parents go through or sacrifice for us til we become parents. I still wish my parents were here so now I could tell them thanks for what they tried to do for me and teach me. It's all apart of the cycle of life for us.
2007-03-28 16:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Of course.
2007-03-28 16:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make it up to them now and tell them how you feel and show appreciation. it is never to late.
2007-03-28 16:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by WOOOOO Whooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope most have been brought up like me and appreaciates
anything people do for you, including parents.
parents are not to be takin for granted, in fact no one should
Michael
2007-03-28 16:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋