Im in my mid 30's. My mother has NEVER told me that she loves me. She has always put me down. I'm not smart enough......pretty enough.......I dont wear enough make up and I'm too thin......Recently I started at a community college at night after work..........she of course says"why are you doing that?" with a snotty attitude. I work full time and attend college 2 nights a week AFTER work YET she seems to think I just dont do enough........but she hasnt worked in 15 years and is onlyl 62....and does absolutely nothing all day but read magazines. Is she jealous of my drive? I do take on ALOT......and am the opposite of her....I just feel this "hole" inside of me of never having a mother who loved me......what do you think?
2007-03-28 09:16:14 · 13 answers · asked by Felicia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I also have 2 children.......15 and 11 that are in a ton of school activities that i run around on any free time and when I tell her Im busy........she is like, "oh I can run circles around you". Also just got done building our own house....actually physically built it a year ago and she hardly ever came to see it and put her nose in the air and said "its ok". I just wanted her to be proud of me.....but she's not
2007-03-28 09:28:53 · update #1
You poor sweetheart! Your mom sounds insensitive and unloving to say the least! She probably criticise you due to her shortcomings and unhappiness in her own life. You know that saying, "misery loves company". She sees you make positive efforts to strive towards accomplishing good things in your life and in comparison to her own life, she resents your happiness. This is so selfish on her part. Look at it this way, as much as you miss having a mother who displays love and affection for you, her poor behaviour has taught you how not to be. And that is a big plus for you! Find love and approval through others who care about you. Best wishes for you and know that you sound like a daughter any mom would be proud to have! Continue the good work!
2007-03-28 09:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 15, but, I have had a lot go on in my life. I do think your mom is jelous of you at least a little. Ok more than a little. Many Women these days seem to want to be #1, but not all of them have the drive to do so.
All I can say is, I am sorry for you, I know that kind of thing is a life scar giver. And I think the fact that you have such drive is AMAZING!
2007-03-28 09:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by wouldnt u like 2 no 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she resents the fact that she never got to do the things you are doing. I don't know your mom personally but I think she regrets not having done more with her life and that regret and angst is taken out on you. Remember, misery loves company. I'd suggest you talk to her and tell her how you feel when she says these things. Even if she does not acknowledge it, you'll be getting this burden off your chest.
2007-03-28 09:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could be or she is going through something and instead of talking about it she is acting this way even if your mother never says it you need to say it to her and just remember God told us to honor our parents not the other way around I am sorry you have to go through that but keep your drive and be all that you can be maybe she is sadden she never was and has regrets
2007-03-28 09:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she sounds jealous. You should try not to let it bother you at this stage of your life. I know it's easier said than done, but you have your own family now. Make sure your kids don't grow up feeling that same"hole" as you do. She sounds like an emotional vampire to me. (sorry)
2007-03-28 11:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u hit it on the spot
some people that think they don't have a life. take it out on others esp family.
tis sad but true. your mom should be proud of you
and let you know this.
i suspect she also doesn't want to see u involved with anyone.
tell me if i'm wrong
don't take it to heart and keep up the good work
2007-03-28 09:27:47 · answer #6 · answered by myddad 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First:
Your mother does love you, know that.
Second:
Your mother may be so hard on you, because she doesnt want you to make the same mistakes she did.
Third:
Keep up the good work!!! Im sure deep down inside, your mohter is very proud!
2007-03-28 09:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Nirel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her. Your on the right track. Keep up the good work.
2007-03-28 09:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ironball 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as your happy with your life choices it matters not what she thinks.
Good on ya! keep it up!
2007-03-28 09:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 q, ask her about her life. if she never partied really, got to work a real job, there's ur answer
2007-03-28 09:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋