I have known this person for awhile.. but only when she's been in a relationship with someone else. We've become better and better friends--finding so much, almost TOO much in common with one another--but she's in a relationship with someone. They've been together for several months but they're having major problems and sometimes she confides in me about them. When we hang out alone I get the feeling that she feels more for me but she is the type that believes in "sticking it out" and trying to make it work... and I'm not one to intervene or be the cause of a breakup. Not only that, even if she did have feelings for me... she is too good of a person to tell me about them while she's in a relationship.
What should I do? forget about her?.. just stay friends even though everytime we hangout I see more and more how great we would go together? or wait it out and see if they eventually break up?
2007-03-28 09:15:26 · 18 answers · asked by Sally 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing to do is step back. You can still be her friend, but don't get in the way of her relationship. If it fails, let it do so on its own and not because of anything you've done. Then, if it's not a good relationship and it falls apart, you'll be the first one she'll come to. Best wishes!
2007-03-28 09:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the smartest thing you can do in this situation is to relax and see how things turn out (Let Fate take it's course), your doing the absolute right thing by being her friend and being there for her when she needs you. Most of the best relationships start off as being good friends so who knows, you say things are going bad between her and this other guy I'd say just wait and see what happens,they might breakup and that could be your opportunity BUT!! if you just happen to come across someone you really like don't blow them off just because you think you might have a chance with this girl that would be stupid because you could be passing up on a good thing all because you were waiting for your chance with this girl when in reality it's posibble it might not happen then you might have messed up big time and passed up a real good thing hope this advice helps Good luck
2007-03-28 09:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEll first of all i would say if she's not happy in her relationship that she's having "major" problems as her friend you should talk to her and maybe the best thing for her to do is break-up. Just because she confides in you doesn't mean she has feelings for you, or because you feel that way. If you really like her that much tell her how you feel. BUT be careful because she might not feel the same way and it might end your friendship with her some people don't like things like that. All i gotta say is good luck
2007-03-28 09:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay friends and wait things out, but I would also let her know how you feel, but not in a way to throw yourself on her, just to let her know.. Like.. when she comes to confide in you sometime about how things are going wrong just let her know I am here for you as a friend.. I do have more feelings for you than friendship, but if that is all you want between us, I would rather have that then nothing at all. You know in a way to tell her, you are more than happy to have the chance to have a friendship with her, but if she ever wants more than that your there..
2007-03-28 09:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by littlemama882003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. Great things are worth waiting for.
2007-03-28 09:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Advice Giver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to take your time and take every moment as it comes enjoy the time she does spend with you and when she does need you and you are there she wont forget it guard your heart and be a friend
2007-03-28 09:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep her in your life if you care about her. You have nothing to lose but a little rejection. And, you can recover from that in time. If you care for her, let her know how you feel. Don't be a chicken sh**.
2007-03-28 09:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait it out because it sounds like they may be heading for a breakup
2007-03-28 09:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think all you can do at this point is be patient. maybe if she sees your interested in someone else it might cause her to really re think her relationship. if she knows u will always be there, she kinda has the best of both worlds.......
2007-03-28 09:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by coco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her stay friends and wait it out.. but this happened to me.. and i was too good of friends with her or something and she didnt wanna go out with me she didn't wanna risk losing me as friend if we ever broke up.. so be careful.
2007-03-28 09:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Monkey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋