OK- so it all begins with the fact she elope on 7/7/07 and then going to have a church wedding and reception later.... OK
Then she tells she wants to get married in May 08 and wants me to alter her grandmother wedding dress. Well, this dress is from 1940 and is pure heavy satin silk... it's a long sleeve winter wedding dress. Even if I removed the sleeves I told her she be sweating plus why cut up such a beautful piece. I recommend having a winter wedding or buy an new dress. She agrees and says she going to go with the winter wedding. I am getting married Nov 3 2007 and working and going to school both- full time. Ready to pull out my hair. She is chit chat about her wedding and says something odd to me.
She is planning her wedding for DEC 07 or JAN 08!!! I thought her wedding was going to be a year out dec 08/jan 09!! She wants me to be the made of honor and wants me to do all this stuff and help her!! When I freaked out- she got mad at me and told me why should she have
2007-03-28 09:13:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
plan around me?? Well, she doesn't but I can't afford a dress, shower, shoes right after my own wedding!!! Plus if you see my past- she bitching about feeding people at my shower!! And we have mutal friend who can't afford this either- she agreed to be in the wedding 08/09 date!!! So her solution to it was well, I don't have to buy her a gift until 1 year after her wedding date- which is proper.
CAN I KILL HER NOW?
2007-03-28 09:15:33 · update #1
She sounds kinda whacky to me but please.....you can't kill her.
Tell her whenever she decides on and actually sets a wedding date you will help her if you can.Your wedding comes first and foremost.
Then just let her go on chit chatting.
2007-03-28 09:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're right that she is tacky and exhibiting terrible manners, having a fake wedding after she is already married, but that's not reason for YOU to be so mad.
Just because your wedding is Nov 07 doesn't mean you OWN all the dates around it! That is a really bridezilla attitude.
If you can't afford to be in her wedding due to your own wedding expenses, then go ahead and decline. You have every right to decline to be a bridesmaid.
Why all the insane drama?! Why in the world are you outraged to such a degree?
2007-03-28 11:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are going to have a new life . Do you need her? I worry that your wedding won't be what you wish if she is involved. Try to step back and get a perspective on the overall situation. Do you have to tell her everything? Does she intimidate you? Do you even want her to be your bridesmaid anymore? Do you want to be her maid of honor? People do decline that , you know. In fact, I just read another question about a person who said she could not be maid of honor.
2007-03-28 10:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. If she really wants to have a winter wedding, and you as the moh, she'll have to change the date. Maybe at least Feb. or March. This way you at least have a few months to re-coup from your wedding. Just tell her you really can't give her the attention she needs if she goes with the Dec. wedding.
2007-03-28 09:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to her how overwhelmed you are feeling.
It is natural for some women to turn into Bridezillas when they are getting married... It is as though they are the only ones in the world who have ever experienced this and we should just bow to the attention seeking demands.
If you are friends, then communicate. Give her a little time to sort out what you have said. Just be clear and concise... Maybe the two of you can come up with alternatives?!
Good luck! :)
2007-03-28 09:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your bridesmaid sounds really finicky as far as setting a date goes. Shes in one month, then another, then a different season....wow. Maybe this is just her phase for right now and she will change the date yet again? Otherwise if she sticks to it, just tell her that you can't handle being a bridesmaid in her wedding because you are planning your own right now.
2007-03-28 09:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup, you'll get off on a technicality. The technicality being that she isn't human so it really isn't murder.
This girl seems DENSE! Tell her you'll love her to death but this is emotional overload and your wedding has to take precedence over hers. Also, tell her that you know how understanding she will be and thank her so much for that.
If she'd like you to attend her wedding you will but unfortunately, that will have to be the limit of your involvement. You could always throw in...your fiance really doesn't think it would be right to get so involved at that time. Blame it on him if it works. GOOD LUCK on your wedding.
2007-03-28 09:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by whaleaway 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a tough positon. I have just come to realize that you have to cut people out of your lives that make you feel bad about yourself. I used to have a lot of selfish friend who made me so frustrated because they would only think of themselves. My suggestion is if you already let her know that this is too much for you already with your own wedding, and you can't be much help to her unless she agrees to change the date. Otherwise, you will be happy to go to her wedding, but you have too much to worry about already, and she will have to plan it herself. Good luck!
2007-03-28 09:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by quortnie11 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope you can't kill her, you can explain to her you can't be her matron of honor but you will just have to calm your nerves. Your day is only one day, there are 364 days left to choose from. You may think she is a bit inconsiderate and that she may be however you can't kill her
2007-03-28 09:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope....no pardon for you, but I don't think the jury would convict either! :-) She sounds like a witch......amd I understanding that she expects you to alter her vintage gown for her....but doesn't think she should plan around you? Hmm.......don't bite the hand that feeds you is what I say.
2007-03-28 09:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋