Smoking - Family's Attitude?

Question

Just wondering if you are at home and smoke do you get much grief off your parents. I'm 21 but am not allowed smoke at home and get grief about it all the time. I'm the only one of 4 who smokes and my parents never did.

Answer 1

As long as you live at home you have to abide by your parents rules. I'm an exsmoker.. I smoked for many, many years...
It's up to you whether you smoke or not.. You really have to
be the one who wants to quit..

But how does anyone afford smoking nowadays?
Carton of smokes goes for $60 a carton..

$240 a month and you can be driving around in a nice car.

Answer 2

First off, the grief your family is giving you is because they care. Today, the negative effects of smoking are well known. They think they are doing you a favour by reminding you how dangerous the habit is.

Second, it is their home. They can have whatever rules about smoking in the house or on the property that they wish to have. Your age doesn't matter. Your relationship to the family doesn't matter. These are their house rules. You have to respect them, even if you don't agree with them.

I think that this issue is a touchy subject for young adults. Please remember, just because you are of legal age to do pretty much anything, you still need to respect the "house rules" of wherever you are living or visiting.

I'm sure that you would respect the no-smoking rule at the home of the parents of your friend. I'm sure that you would respect the no-alcoholic-beverages rule at the home of neighbours. Certainly, you would respect the no-sleeping-in-the-same-room-until-marriage rule at the home of your future in-laws.

Being part of the family does not give anyone the right to disrespect house rules.

I hope that any rules that you have for your home, that are thoughtful and reasonable to you, are respected without question by those who visit you.

Answer 3

Are you surprised? How CAN you be surprised? As the mother of an asthmatic son, were my step-son to walk into the house with a cigarette, I would come UNGLUED!

I am sure tha tyou've heard that smoking is bad for you, I'm sure that you know that second[hand smoke is as bad for them as smoking is for you, and I'm sure that you are aware that by sharing all the lovely chemicals with your loved ones, you make the house stink, you make them stink, you expose them to over 4000 toxic chemicals.

Yeah, you SHOULD get grief about smoking at home! It is not your house...unless you own the place, pay the bills buy the groceries, own the furniture...THEN you can dictate what substances are used.

Answer 4

I smoke and my husband doesn't, I get grief all the time about it. I don't smoke in the house or in the care when the kids are with us. So I know how you feel.

Answer 5

Excellent question.

Do some research about what smoking does to you. It damages your lungs. Long term it will shorten your life in one way or another. It might be lung cancer, it might be emphysema. Visit a retirement home, look at the people who can hardly take a breath and ask them if they smoked. Look for someone with a tracheotomy because they developed cancer of the larynx. Ask about their quality of life. Smoking ages your skin. The nicotine constricts your blood vessels and speeds up your heart.

Second hand smoke damages the lungs and general health of all those around you. Smoking is poison. Nicotine is addictive. The tobacco companies love to take your money and they don't care if and when you die.

Good for your family that they love you enough to tell you to stop smoking. Good for them that they refuse to allow you to expose them to your cancer sticks.

My mother and her brothers and sisters all smoked.

Brother John - dead at 38 from lung cancer - left behind a widow and 9 children - smoking is so addictive that he continued to smoke after they removed one lung.
Brother Bud - dead at 54 from colon cancer - left behind a widow and 3 children
Brother Bill - dead at 63 from emphysema
Sister Madeline - dead at 70 from heart failure
Mom - dead at 74 from lymphoma - the last two years were slow painful death

If you would like a future like this, by all means, keep smoking.

Answer 6

I think if you smoke and you are not allow to smoke at home then you should respect how your parents feel. I don't smoke and if I did I would repsect others around me when it came to me smoking. It's not healthy and it smells really bad. My mom smokes and when she comes to my house to visit she has to smoke outside because I don't allow her to smoke around me or my children.
Just have a little consideration for them....I don't think it's really about you smoking although they are your parents and probably do care about your health as well but, if not they are probably just concern for themselves and for having a smoke free home as well.

Answer 7

You are living in their house, so they are entitled to give you grief. Smoking outside isn't a bad thing. Don't like it, move out.

Answer 8

Why don't you get your own house then you can stink up the place all you want with your cigarettes you can also get yellow teeth, wrinkles around your mouth and eyes, frizzy hair, hacking, black mucous cough and best of all cancer, which if you're lucky you won't suffer with for lots of years, also maybe having to be on oxygen and pulling that tank around with you everywhere you go, IF you can go anywhere... ..Oh you can't afford your own house..then Don't smoke in your parents house.

Answer 9

It is called respect for your parents, I have smoker Friends and none smoker Friends and my smoker Friends respect my home by not smoking in it, they will go sit in their cars and smoke if they need a cig that bad. Oh yeah and my smoker Friends when they come over stay for hours on end.

Answer 10

If you r in your parents home, just respect their wishes in their home and go outside to smoke...Their home has been smoke free all these years, why would you wish to be the one staining it with your nicotine? Homes don't come cheap and the smell of nicotine is very hard to get rid of...