Is living together a real test run for marriage? Or just a way to put it off?

Answer 1

If you move in with him he will never marry you. If he is getting his milk and cookies for free whygo further?! I have a friend who lived with her man for 7 years waiting for him to marry her. He never did. She moved out and left him because he had what he wanted without the commitment. If a man is given everything he wants without buying it he will never commit. I am contantly amazed at couples who move in together for a tiral and nothing comes of it. Why buy the cow when the milk's for free!

Answer 2

I definitely think that living together either makes or breaks a relationship. And I think in this day in age where so many couples get divorced, the more you can do beforehand to make sure things are right, the better. I moved in with one boyfriend a few years ago. We already had a rocky relationship, and living together for just a few months quickly proved to us that we weren't right for one another. On the other hand, just last year I moved in with my boyfriend of six months. We were already talking about marriage and the future, and thought "let's live together!" Living together for the past year has strengthened our relationship even more and shown us that we are very compatible. We're getting married next year and I truly feel that living together is a great "dress rehearsal" to the real thing. A person's true colors do come out when you spend so much time with them.

Answer 3

I don't look at it as a way to put it off...but I also would not consider it a real good test run for marriage either.
You test drive a car not a spouse....Now, I did live with my hubby before we got married....so, I'm not against it or anything like that...I just feel that living together for a couple of years, months, days what ever and splitting bills is not what marriage is about...Marriage is about commitment, love, dedication, compromise, and support....

Answer 4

Test Run.... No... You can make a marriage work if you put enough work into it. When you live together you learn each others "quirks" such as not picking up clothes, pop cans etc. But not all of us are perfect in anyway so we have our quirks that they might not like. I believe you should only get married if you only know each other well and are ready to spend the rest of your life with this person. So I do not believe that it is a way to put it off either.

Answer 5

Its a real test run. When my son was thinking about marriage I and my future-in-law decided that we wanted them to live together for awhile because we thought they wouldn't make it. Well, they have been together going on 11 years and I think we made the right decision. It's a real way of finding out about what each other is really like when your alone.

Answer 6

I think it can be both. I mean, you get to see how you interact together after spending a lot of time together. If you live with a person for 6 months & you can't stand them already... I think it's safe to say that marriage is not an option for you.

But then at the same time.... if someone is not ready for the comittment they may compromise with living together as a way to "simulate' marriage until they're ready to say yes. "Let's just live together for a little bit first." .... that could wind up being a test too!

I would say it's moreso a test, but it could be both. :)

Answer 7

It is a real test for marriage. If you get along great or the same as when you were living apart then you know a marriage will work. If things change and it gets worse a marriage will not work. Marriage would make it even worse. Make sure its right before you make it forever.

Answer 8

I totally think it's a test run for marriage. I personally would never marry someone before living with them. You discover all SORTS of things about a person after you live with them. Easier to break up than get divorced! Plus you're not stuck in an unhappy situation for the simple fact that you "dont want to get divorced" if things don't work out.

Answer 9

It depends on the couple, really. Some people never intend to get married in the first place, and living together is their commitment. Some people adore each other, get married, and find that they can't stand living in the same house. Some of these people divorce, and some just live in separate places most of the time (I know a couple like that - they love each other very much, but just can't live in the same house very long). For some people, finding out that they can't live together is a dealbreaker in itself and so don't get married *or* stay together.

Answer 10

I'm so glad I lived w/ my husband before we got married even tho' my parents didn't approve. I think it's good to know your partner's habits before making that commitment b/c marriage is hard enough as it is to try to throw in living conditions on top of it all is way too stressful! It's up to the couples tho' whether they live together or not to try to test the waters. I think either way is fine.