I thought I was doing the right thing...
A friend of mine was seeing a boy who slept with me four times and said he "liked" me and treated me so good. they werent boyfriend and girlfriend and she didnt know what she wanted and neither did he.
but i felt really guilty for doing what i did so i wanted to tell her and the boy told me if i did then i would be left alone and he would turn all my friends against me. but i KNOW it was the right thing to do... so i told her and he kept lying and we caught him in lies and went together to his house to confront him...
She is such a wonderful friend that she isnt even mad, she is just happy that i was so honest and upfront... but now, all the guy friends in our group hate me and are saying HORRIBLE things about me... what should i do??? just not care because those arent my REAL friends?? or try to talk with them and explain the truth because i know he is trying to make me look bad??!
help!!
2007-03-28 09:06:52 · 16 answers · asked by Saritah Bonita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Say nothing in return. Be kind, don't defend yourself.
Eventually they will let it die as something or someone new will come along for them to focus on and you will become yesterday's news.
2007-03-28 09:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Donot worry for what others think about what you did. It was the right thing to do and you should be proud of it. You actions saved your friend as well.
This phase will pass quickly. Try to be busy with other friends or make some new ones. Take up a hobby. Stay away from the guys unless either they get matured enough to understand your stand or completely shun then if they cant
2007-03-28 17:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulation for having so much courage and being so honest! We all make errors and we all have the right to be forgiven. You saved your friendship and that's the most important. Those guys are not even worth you paying attention to them. You're going through difficult times but don't forget with time everything goes away, be patient, take this time as useful introspective time to think about yourself and your actions, what life you want to live and how our actions have immediate affects on our life.
You did the right thing by telling the truth, standing up to these guy and not compromising under social pressure, this you need to keep in mind! You have all my support! Good luck
2007-03-28 17:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age, but it sounds like teenager. Boys in the teens (15-19) will try anything to get a girl in bed. Afterward, they brag or lie about it. As much as you can do right now is do your best to stay clear of this group because those horrible things most likely are not true. (been there, done that, branded a tramp and wasnt.... didnt even sleep with anyone)
I know names hurt, its emotional abuse. You can seek help from a guidance councillor on how to handle this or a women's center. Either one is free and any advice they give you will help your self-esteem.
Good luck with this!!
2007-03-28 17:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slept with your friends boy friend!!!!!what make you go for this wierd situation?try to analyse your mistake and inform your friends I think an error is committed and here I am if you all want to accept me as I am fine other wise thell them to mind their own business and get out..you have a great friend who respects you inspite of this nonsense infatuation with her boy friend..who the hell is that guy??for me he seems to be a sexmaniac and opportunistic..tell your friend to forget this guy and give that guy to the police..but again u will be in mess..just forget everything and try to grow with the next practical way of leading a normal life....god bless...
2007-03-29 02:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by sweet papa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real friends dont say mean things about eachother. Those guys arent your real friends if they dont trust you and belive the other guy. Friendship is all about trust. Your girlfriend sounds like a jewel! Be happy she's not mad at you.
2007-03-28 18:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by lolabarry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having casual sex for one. The guys are saying horrible things about you because you disrespected yourself by giving yourself away like a cheap *****. Sex is meant for a married man and woman to procreate (make kids) and to share their love. What you did was a meaningless act from which, hopefully, you did not contract a STD (sexually transmitted disease.)
I am sorry to say this, but you now have the reputation of being "easy." My advice: make up with your friend; don't ever again entertain the thought of dating (or sleeping with) any guy she likes; and move on to a new "group" of friends who are not familiar with your loose sexual behavior.
Lastly, show a little self-respect for yourself by saying "no." Let's face it; guys "play" with girls like you, they never "love" them.
Good Luck.
2007-03-28 17:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by tess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how miserable it is. All u can do is move along. Avoid old & unwanted friends get new ones, change of place also will make u comfortable. Get going... But hey don't speak abt ur past or personal with ur new friends. Keep a distance & u'll have a good relationship.
2007-03-28 16:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i like ur courage. i like ur behaviour to say truth to ur friend. i think ur a nice girl .and ur behaviour is also so good . but i dont know why u do casual sex with guys. ok but bettter dont do that casual sex again and say to ur friends. they will treate u like a bad girl that is u know what i mean. there are lot of people who had sex and not saying to any one keeping that in secreate.. esspecially for girls . dont say that u had sex with some one before marraige . if u marraige that same guy means no problem other wise it will be a big problem in future.
and coing to ur problem leave them all boy friends they have bad opinion on u now. just leave that carry on ur future. no bother about them who wont give support to u . make friends who support u.
2007-03-29 02:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did the right thing... the guy friends in your group are pissed at you beacuse you let the cat out of the bag on the other guy - he was probably acting all macho around them and this came as a major blow to his ego...
if the guys realize what you did was right, then they'll definitely be friends with you again... if not, consider it for the best as they lack what is known as character.
2007-03-28 16:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by maverick_youth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done a wonderful thing and first feel proud and happy for that. Jus ignore that bloody guy and his dumb frnds. You proved to u and ur frnd that ur honest, thats it! Dont worry abt anything and also laugh loudly when u see the bloody guy, that will surely embarrass him.
2007-03-29 06:52:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋