Why Do We Men Always have to Approach Women ?

Question

Women rarely approach men.

We men have to approach women and it gets tiresome. She can reject you when you approach her, when you ask for her number, when u ask for date, when your about to have sex. This makes men constantly vulnerable to rejection - hence, the idea that men's egos are very fragile. but, women generally refuse any exposure to rejection at all.

So who really has the fragile ego, here ?

I don't get it. Men approach women, then women get annoyed. I wouldn't mind but for the most part women's happiness depends on men needing them. Most men would love to spend one week in your shoes and receive the attention that you get. I just don't get it. Women do approach men sometimes but that guy is usually model handsome or famous where as even most average looking woman gets lots of offers.

Answer 1

Look at it this way instead: it gives you the chance to decide if the girl is really worth a blow to your pride if you were to be rejected. This helps you weed out all the girls you'd just settle for since you weren't really that attracted to them to begin with.

If a girl you hadn't even noticed came up to you and started to chase you, it would be somewhat of a turn-off, no? What if she was the one calling you, texting you, and setting up all the dates? If you'd had no interest in her to begin with, you'd have to come up with some lame excuse such as "I'm not really looking for anything serious right now" or "I just see you as a friend." What would your friends think?

No, it is definitely better if the guy does the pursuing. I'm not saying the girl shouldn't reciprocate his interest so he knows he should proceed, but please don't expect most women to take the role of a guy. It might not be as wonderful as you'd expect since it'd be pretty hard to appreciate your girlfriend if she was that easy to win over, and you'd have a hard time rejecting a girl that was never on your radar to begin with.

I make fun of my one of my guy friends whenever he complains about such and such girl texting him, or when one girl kept asking him out until he finally told her "he wasn't ready for a relationship right now." I tell him that many guys would be jealous to be in his shoes, but he insists that he can't stand the fact that only girls he doesn't care about pursue him, and the girls he really likes he has to ask out.

Do you think there's any significance to this? : ) Remember, the grass is always greener on the other side.

Answer 2

I don't know that this is entirely true. I've heard of a lot of married men who will approach single women. Usually, these men are not happy at home or there are problems in his marriage, so he's looking for an escape or casual sex with no strings. It's definitely wrong to do, but I see a lot more of the married men doing the approaching and picking up than I do the single women doing so of married men. The fact that you say "always" implies that ALL single women do this, which isn't a fact.

Answer 3

I have gotten very few offers in my lifetime, and I'm almost 30. I do not get lots of attention from guys, or really much of any attention. I'm slightly above average as far as looks go, so it's not like I'm ugly or anything. So, I'm not sure why you think we all get lots of attention.

The times when I've approached a guy all turned out badly. It's like I was no fun anymore because they didn't have to chase me down and capture me like some kind of prize.

I've decided to just stick to friendships with guys and take things snail-like slowly. Letting the friendship naturally unfold into something more if that's the direction we want to go. I have the patience for that. I'm not sure many people do.

Answer 4

Bro I ask myself the same thing and this is what i concluded.
Girls love to be the center of attention and they love for you to tell them how much you want them.
So they won't come up to you and ask you out, they will wait till you put ur 32's on and ask them out.

Good Luck, good question.

Answer 5

I think in this day and age there is no specification on who asks who, if you like someone just tell them.
People are stereotyped too much,i agree with you,but a man can reject a woman too!!!

Answer 6

I approach men, but they usually get as far away from me as they can and/or blow me off. So anyway, whats your question again?

Answer 7

I have kinda asked guys out in the past and it hasn't worked out. So I now leave it to a guy to ask me out as I figure if he really wants to get to know me better he will make the move, he's willing to face rejection for me. I wouldn't say most average looking women get lots of offers, I would say I'm attractive (and thats not being big headed) and the last guy that asked me out didn't call so I text him and suggested coffee he said we'll have to sort something out soon and I never heard from him. Figure that one out!!!

Answer 8

because most feel like they don't have too and that there has to be something wrong with them if they need to go out and get what they want

Answer 9

because the way our silly society works is that if a woman shows too much interest or approaches the man, or makes the 1 st move, she is called loose or a slag etc. so we are , naturalyy, cautious!!!
and not all girls do ALWAYS wait to be asked on a date/etc.
so chill out. be respectful and genuine. thats what we like in a man.
you'll find the right girl soon!

Answer 10

i am a female and i know what you mean..when i saw my guy i approached him..worked out fine