My ex-boyfirend of nearly 4 years ended it with me3 years ago. The reason he gave was that he 'couldn´t get his head around marriage´. He´s a lot younger than me at 30 and I´m 45. My heart was broken as it was a good relationship.. we lived with each other and had many common interests. When I thought about it, I could understand that perhaps I was at a different stage in my life than him and as he never mistreated me or cheated, I don´t harbour bad feelings for him He went back home a few months after it ended..he's from another country Since then, we´ve been in touch by email/phone now and again and always have very nice chats. I'm also very friendly with his parents now and again by phone as they liked me a lot (he told me). A while back he said that if I didn´t get to visit him he´d have to visit me.Now that´s what he´s planning & wants to do a trip with me. I'd like to meet him but worry about getting hurt again.He hasn't had a real girlfriend since we split.Advice pls?
2007-03-28 08:52:28 · 16 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only you can answer this one. If you'd get something out of it...whatever that might be than try it. If you can only see the negatives then it isn't worth it. Can you be friends without it being anything more.? When you answer those than you'll know what to do.
2007-03-28 08:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by whaleaway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your same shoes just a little over a year ago. I got reconnected with my ex and we had been apart for almost 13 years. We just got back together Aug 06 and these 7 months have been pure heaven. We moved in together and we have the best relationship. Things happen for a reason. Just follow your heart, I did and I'm more happy then I've been in a really long time.
Go for it! Life is to short and you never know if you are passing up a great thing.
2007-03-28 08:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i know this will be the hardest choice but it is the only way to make sure he doesn't hurt you again
tell him that you still care for him and that you dont want your heart broken and ask him what the purpose of the trip is
and tell him that you would like to go with him but you need to know where you both stand weather it be friends or more cus you cant get hurt and you have had a good friendship and you want to keep it that way at least for this trip and for now
if he gets scared and cancels it then he really isnt ready to see you again and if he jumps in and says he wants you back then tell him that you aren't ready but you can take it slow and see where is goes
2007-03-28 09:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
...I say you can both do whatever you like together seriously...but only under the guise babe of diplomacy. Tell him your truths and dares babe... then don't lead his heart into mischievous behavior for the sake of other stuff hun. That wouldn't be fare to anyone really...not even you. Do onto others as you would like to have done onto you really. Do it any other way babe...and mother nature or St. Peter will getcha eventually. Stuff has a way of coming back to haunt and bite ya when you've done wrong by someone sweetie....so I say do it right...and then no one can cry foul ball...got it?
2007-03-28 09:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by scott s 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honestly I'd say that it's okay to see him again. It all depends on what you want from him now and depending on what he wants from you now as to wether you should see him again. I'm sure he's told you of his intentions and i'm sure you're somewhat aware of what you're hoping for!! If you're not ready to take it to the level he's at then I would advise not to bother with it!! Only you truely know if it's worth it or not!! good luck!!
2007-03-28 09:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Atheen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hes had three years to think about you! And now he wants to see you again so it must have been good memories. You should meet with him. And see if three years has made a difference....
2007-03-28 08:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by nikkijean7072 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whenever I read the word EX I'm against it. I don't even have to read the rest. YOU EX'D THEM FOR A REASON. Never go back. You're setting yourself up for another heartbreak.
2007-03-28 08:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
3years a long time and i'm sure he's had a think.give him a chance to express himself.its best knowin rather then regrettin on sumtin u knew could have been something special
2007-03-29 07:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by kul_sweet_babe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you ever planning to get married? If so, meet him and don't worry about what might happen!
2007-03-28 08:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-28 09:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by zatarav 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋