my boyfriend cheated?

Question

Ok here is the deal my boyfriend of 3 years just told me that about a year ago he slept with my sister we were broke up at the time but still its really nasty i love him with all my heart but sould i leave him or give him another chance?

Answer 1

DON"T give him a chance. If he cheated once, he's sure to cheat again and again and again. Try focusing on other things, or find a new guy. You'll get over him and move on. Just erase him from your memory. And with your SISTER? I'm so sorry.

Answer 2

Well... I don't find it ok for him to sleep with your sister.. You have a bf for a longer period, you break-up, and then your sister sleeps with him??.. I mean, it's not just his fault, you shouldn't neither give your sister another chance ...Ouch! I think you didn't know how to react when you heard "the news"... Your sister is part of the family, so she ought not to do it or at least tell you.... :( I'm really sorry for you- I don't know what I would do if my sister slept with my bf X( U were broke up sooo... it's not sooo bad what they done, but would you have done it if you were your sister? I wouldn't give him another chance. He kept this 'secret' for an year, didn't he?? If you love him so much that you'll give him another chance, u should know that this will happen again- that he'll cheat on you :(

Answer 3

First of all, you have to give him credit for fessing up about this huge mistake. It's very hard to regain trust after such thing has happened, but its possible. You have to sit down and think about how much you love him and if it's worth. It may not be worth to throw away a three year relationship down the drain because of his mistake two years ago. You HAVE to keep your eyes open and make sure he will not do it again! Look out for signs of cheating. They may be simple things like him always taking his cell phone everywhere he goes, change in his daily patterns, change of friends, no answer to your phone calls.

They say once a cheater, always a cheater, but that rule does not apply to every guy! Plus, when he slept with your sister, he wasn't technically cheating on you, since your were not together at the time. So, in conclusion, give him some credit for fessing up but do keep your eyes open at all times!

Answer 4

If you were broken up at the time then you can't really call that cheating. But I would be a little upset about the sister thing. It sounds to me like it may have been a revenge thing, so if you love him I would say you should give him a second chance. I have never given any guy that has cheated on me a second chance, because I don't believe in it, but in your case, I don't think it is really cheating. And you have to give him credit for telling you about it. But I would make it known that you are very hurt and upset, and from there see how things go. I am sure that you will be fine.

Answer 5

What a jerk!! First of all, I'm sorry for the terrible experience you must be having. A guy that is willing to sleep with your sister is beyond help. He was aware that your sister would be in your life forever....and he has attempted to break that bond. He was also willing to conceal what happened for almost a year. I'm puzzled why he choose to reveal this now. It takes two people who love each other to make a good relationship. This relationship seems one-sided. He broke your trust and that's that. I'd leave him w/o any further discussion.

Answer 6

The best way for you to answer this is to pretend this was a friend posing this question to you about her life.

I think you should respect yourself and not settle for a person who sleeps with your sister. There are plenty of people in this world and he could have found someone not a relative or best friend to you. If you were broken up he was free to date but your sister is just too close to home. So if you weren't together for a while then you haven't even been with him for three years continuosly. I'd cut my losses if it were me and be open to another new relationsihp.

Basically if a friend asked you this how would you advise her?

Answer 7

Noooooooooooooooo....do not give him another chance!!! That's not right that he slept with your sister. What kind of man is he to disrespect you like that. How would he like it if you slept with his brother (if he one) or his best friend. Those are bountries that no one should ever cross. I know you love him but can you see yourself ever trusting him around your family or friends. When you leave someone it will always hurt but you will be able to heal again with time. You can find better.

Answer 8

Well if you had broken up at the time then it is not exactly cheating. I would be more angry at your sister, because that is a betrayal. I would give him another chance, and tell her that you know what happened, and warn her to stay away from your man in future.

Answer 9

Just cause ya'll werent together doesnt mean a thing. The fact that he chose to sleep withy your sister says ALOT about both of their characters. And to top it off he WAITED A YEAR to tell you.

Sorry honey but hes lying to you about more if it took him a YEAR to tell u he had relations with your sister of all people. Hes a loser and you can do bad by yourself.

Answer 10

with a sister like that, you don't need any enemys! If you can stand that your sister slept with YOUR boyfriend and it's ok with you then stay with him. But remember, It's not how you feel about him that counts, it's how HE FEELS ABOUT YOU! You can love him all you want, but if he isn't treating you like he should, then it's time for him to go no matter how you feel!!!