Should I sleep with him?

Question

Okay so there is this guy working with me for the next few days and he has been here for a little while. His last day is friday, and he asked me to "meet up with him" tomorrow night. I would have no problem in this BUT he is married and in his late 40's. (I am 24). He is a fed govt agent and I like him, but I dont want to ruin his family(if she were to find out). I know I shouldnt but i cant help from thinking about it. What should i do???

I think its really funny BUT thank you all for the "help" My friend and I were testing a theory... When people post a question about something innocent nobody responds, BUT when you post something "sinful" you people have a hay day. ONE I would never date a married man ( am divorced b/c of a cheating husband and wont be the reason for someone elses pain), TWO I would never date anyone OLDER than my father (EWW), Three i woul never date anyone at work (that never turns out well). I learned my lesson on that the hard way with a man that was only a few years older than me. Thank you for playing.

Answer 1

really?? are you serious?? if you do, when you get married someday & your husband is out of town or out late for business, i want you to lay awake & think about what he could be doing. maybe you should think about that instead.

Answer 2

No! You may have those thoughts but if you don't give in to them, they will pass, and as days go by, you will be glad that you didn't do it when you think and reflect. Keep perservering, don't give in to the thoughts. Just try to hold on to what you really believe inside...don't do it. It's wrong. You should not do this with anyone casually, especially not someone who is married..Even when you do meet the agent, try to not pay heed to the thoughts..you may have them but you have a choice to do it or not. Have no worry and when that day goes by, you will be glad that you didn't do it. All the best! We are behind you. Even if you have those thoughts, do not give in to them and later, they will pass. Just keep perservering and don't do it. Make a wise choice.

Answer 3

Girl! THINK!!! Put yourself in HIS WIFE'S shoes!!! How would you feel then, if it was YOU that was HIS WIFE, and you found out that he did what he wants to do with YOU! Just tell me HONESTLY, how YOU would feel to be cheated on by YOUR man???

Don't you see that all this guy wants to do is USE YOU? Just
have his little "fling" at YOUR expense, and mainly HIS WIFE'S AND KIDS??? And remember, I don't care HOW "appealing" he is! USERS ARE LOSERS!!!

What you are contemplating is STUPID, and WRONG! And for one MAIN reason: When God said, "Thou shalt not commit adultery", He wasn't kidding! What you are talking about doing is SIN! And "the wages of sin is death." (Romans 6:23) You want to risk "STD'S"??? You don't KNOW him, do you? You have NO IDEA what you're getting with this FOOL! And that's exactly what he is!

For a MARRIED MAN to even entertain the thought of committing adultery.....he PROVES himself unfaithful! And you want to ENCOURAGE HIM to do so? And why would you want to "hook up" with a guy that's A FOOL? Aren't you smarter than that? THINK!!! Not with YOUR HOREMONES, but with YOUR HEAD AND HEART!

And aren't YOU worth more than being some FOOL'S "call girl", his "little mistress"? You're not A BIMBO, are you? Please tell me that you're more beautiful than that!!!

PLEASE, dear sweet girl! THINK! And DO WHAT'S RIGHT! You're "one night stand" will SOMEHOW, SOME WAY come back to HAUNT YOU! I don't know HOW, I just know it WILL! Because as the Bible says, "Whatsoever you sow, THAT shall you also REAP" and if you "sow to the flesh, of the flesh you will REAP CORRUPTION" (Galatians 6:7&8)

I can't appeal to you strongly enough.....DON'T DO IT! Have NOTHING to do with this wicked man! Because trust me, you WILL regret it if you do not! If you want a REAL man to communicate with, I'm available, and I'll be YOUR FRIEND! Contact me...send me a message on here. OK??? I'm serious! Not "a user".....LIKE HIM!

Answer 4

Run away. He's clearly not available for anything long term. He's all too willing to "meet" with you. He's hoping for sex with no chance of an expected committment to you. If you're interested in him, hand him a card, look him straight in the eye and tell him "If you ever develop the integrity and balls to tell you wife that you wish to be single again, look me up."

How can you like a man who so willingly lies to and cheats on his wife? Develop some integrity of you own. Be the stronger person. Tell him to put it back in his pants and save it for his wife.

Go out and look for someone around your own age, who is single and share some of your interests. Hopefully, they will understand the terms of loyalty and fidelity better than you do right now.

Answer 5

Don't be a homewrecking slut.

But since when does "meet up with" equate to "bang"?

But in the end, I have to wonder what kind of moral compass you have (or lack) if you come to Yahoo! answers to make a decision like this? Have you no faculties of your own? You just do what a bunch of strangers tell you to do?

My guess is that you've got your mind made up, but are looking for someone to tell you what you've already decided to do, so you can absolve yourself of any guilt by blaming the answerers who supported your decision.

Answer 6

I am a married man in my mid 40s and I travel from time to time. On more than one occasion I have found myself attracted to a hot younger woman. You know, flirting, eye contact, etc...

But I have to ask myself, "is this worth losing my family?" The answer is always no.

If this guy sleeps with you, he's got some serious personal issues and a complete lack of respect for you, himself, and his family.

Don't sleep with him (or any married man).

Answer 7

men that are married and having affairs are only preying on young naive women. you don't want to be one of them. 1st of all, it is wrong for you to be thinking about a married man - he is off limits. leave that man alone even if he constantly asking you out. secondly, that man is in his 40's, you're only in your 20's what can you possibly have in common? what do u see in him that u can't see in another man closer to your age? personally, i would never date anyone that old and i'm 31 yrs old. i prefer dating someone closer to my age. what u need to do is tell him that you're not interested. tell him that he's a married man and you don't date anyone that's married. if he says he'll leave his wife... don't believe it! if that doesn't stop him... tell him that you only date men close to your age. then you need to get over it. start keeping yourself busy by going out with your friends and start meeting more ppl and maybe you'll find someone totally cute and who's around your age. good luck.

Answer 8

sex is the 1st thing that I also think of when a man asks me out - will he be any good, how big is he? will he let me go down on him? will he go down on me and do a proper job? will he give me a good, deep grinding or is he a wham bam thank u man.

in response to your question NO - do not sleep with him. he's a dirty old man who wants a piece of young flesh.

find someone else who is available.

Answer 9

tell you what...if you had to ask the general population on yahoo answers for insight, you definetly should not sleep with him! One of you has to be the one to stand up and say it's wrong...unfortunately even though he is older i think it's going to be left up to you to be the bigger person. you don't want to sleep with a man who would cheat on his wife do you??? no. if he will cheat on her with you, how is he lying to you? and honey, please don't think that he's going to leave his wife for you because unfortunately the odds of that happening are very scarce. i'm not trying to be mean or to judge you because i have no right to do so, i'm just trying to give you a dose of reality before you make a mistake you will regret.

Answer 10

I cannot believe you are asking this question. Of course DO NOT SLEEP with him. That would be wrong. Think about it all you want, but you do know right from wrong. Just because you want to do something doesn't make it any less wrong.