I've being seeing my boyfriend for over a year now and I am turning 16 this May. We seem perfect for each other but i'm starting to get really irritated and snappy with him, I think I need a break. I just can't finish it I love him so much but at the same time I feel I need to as I am becomming unhappy! He is a really clingy boyfriend and I know that he will be heartbroken if I finish it, never leave me alone and probably start drinking heavily again therefore I'm really worried. I don't know if i'll be able to cope with not having him as my boyfriend. Can anyone give me some decent advice?
2007-03-28 08:33:08 · 11 answers · asked by Naomi..x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, don't take on someone else's problems. You can not worry about what he'll do "if" that is his own problem to deal with as he might. You are responsible for your own happiness and I think you already know it's without him. So, make your move you won't regret it in the long run.
2007-03-28 08:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by whaleaway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15, drop the boyfriend and live, live live! You may have a bit of spring fever, "school-itis" and that will may anyone itchy to other things besides hang out with the boyfriend. With the time change, I think everyone is anxious to be outside and enjoy some sunshine.
If a situation is making you unhappy, you are young and free and able to make some healthy changes. You say he is clingy, but you are NOT his mother and you shouldn't have the responsibility to "make" or "keep" him happy. He has to to that for himself all on his own. If he starts drinking, that is wholly HIS decision and tells me he is to immature and needy for a free-spirted thinker like yourself.
You lived for many years, I presume, without him as your boyfriend and you will go one without him as your boyfriend. Imagine what could happen with your grades if you put all the effort you are putting into taking care of him, into your studies!
I know you don't want to hear that you are "to young for this kind of stuff" because right now, you are older than you have ever been in your life, that said, you have a lot of life and a lot of boyfriends till you get through high school and college.
My "decent advice"? Don't commit to anyone emotionally or physically until neither of your depends on the other to "MAKE" you happy. When you are happy in your own skin, you are better able to contribute to another person's well-being. It is best to run from people to make self destructive choices and then blame someone they claim to love. That is NOT love, it is cowardly obession and you deserve better.
Keep yourself busy with other friends and family or volunteer somewhere. When this guy isnt' taking up all your time, you'll be surprised how little you think of him. Bless you!
2007-03-28 15:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by tlcats 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i may seem young but i have some exspierience with this tell him how you feel tell him you think hes to clingy and you need a break tell him that yall are not broke up you just need a brake from everything make a promise you wont see anyone else so he is sure you wont be out with another guy while he is sitting at home by hisself take a vacation with the girls this weekend or maybe the rest of the week to have some time with just u and your girls
2007-03-28 15:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Sara S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a break. Tell him you want to date other guys for a while and re assess getting back with him in a few months. Ask him to give you some space to understand yourself better and learn about other guys, since you are so young. Ask him to data other women for a while and set and date to get together sometime in the future a few months now to discuss what you want to go then.
2007-03-28 15:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him you need a little space from him, to do your own thing. re-evaluate your relationship during this time, and really think about why your feeling so snappy and irritated, It may just be you don't want to be with him anymore and your trying to find an excuse to break it off. best of luck
2007-03-28 15:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by princess07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you arent happy then leave the relationship alone and just let him know its just not working. You have to do what works for you and not hold ontp an unhealthy relationship. He will get over the heartbreak but, will you get over being unhappy for years to come?
2007-03-28 15:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not your problem to worry about what he may or may not do if you dump him. If you break up with him, and do it in a fair, respectful way, then his problems are his own.
2007-03-28 15:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are unhappy - then let him go. If you stay you are on your way to a very unhealthy relationship.
2007-03-28 15:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by brog 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Naomi - You're too young to get married, so break it off!
2007-03-28 15:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break up and move on...
Find a new b/f..
2007-03-28 15:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋