Ok serious answers only please..... I have just turned 30, well on Sunday, for the last 5 years I have abstained from the whole relationship thing, after coming out of a nightmare relationship, while I sorted out myself and got my life back on track. Now however I am kind of wanting to meet someone, I have really good social life and good job, but most of the people I mix with are married or in long term relationships, while I have been enjoying the single life my mates have been setteling down! Now after hitting thirty I am kind of wondering how if I ever will actually meet someone, sane and sorted....!! I mean a sat night out isnt really best place to meet someone...and I am kind of feeling that I am too old....! what are your thoughts?
2007-03-28 08:32:34 · 14 answers · asked by djp6314 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm in the same situation. I'll be 31 this year and came out of a bad relationship recently. I'm enjoying being single and independent and concentrating on my career and spending time with my friends, but i do worry that i'll end up alone. Most of my friends are married with kids now, although i'm not really into that at all. Apparently there's someone for everyone, and they come along when you least expect it! Just enjoy life and things will happen. x
2007-03-28 11:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Know exacty what you mean - I used to be the clubbing queen, out on the town every weekend - always put my friends first before any man. Then, I started to realise that my friends one by one had settled down and I was dancing at the disco alone!. You are right, you are unlikely to meet any one decent in clubs etc but the problem is, if you are single, you are not going to meet any one sat in alone either!. Try and do different things where you are likely to meet single people, people who you can get to know, learn a language, take up a hobby etc. I met my man at the age of 33 in a chinese takeaway - for once, I decided not to go out on the town and stayed in!! That was 7 years ago and we are still together - in that time, I have nursed a couple of friends through divorces!. You are still young so carrying on getting out there but keep you eyes peeled and open yourself up to a relationship - we always get put off by a bad relationship but, people are not all the same.
2007-03-28 15:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bexs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could you send this question ot my ex!! He's doing the whole, I'm 30 and still want to act 22! I don't know, It's goo dthat you got your act together so now you know what you want and won't settle for less, and you certainly are not too old to meet someone quality. People always say, when you least expect it, you'll meet someone. When it's meant to happen, you'll meet someone, and although it sucks b/c you never know, if you go out with sub-par people just to satisfy your need to date, then thats what you get, a sub-part relationship. Don't worry, it will happen and when it does, it'll be worth the wait.
2007-03-28 15:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Heather L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't answer this but can sympathise. I am 55 and have done the same as you for 5 yrs (unhappy divorce). Ask myself lots of questions ie do I really want one, am I slim,funny enough etc. I can't do the Sat night out thing anymore, certainly don't want to join Singles clubs or Bingo clubs - just want to be myself but think that in order to attract you seem to have to go out there and hunt a man down. I don't think of myself as old so please don't you think that way. Any responses from men out there who don't just want sex (well not on the first date, anyway) and someone to move in with? Keep smiling, I am.
2007-03-28 16:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by nanaangela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, your not too old. I was single for 3 years then found love through a friend. You will find love, why not take up something you have always wanted to, like a short course of something at college.
You might meet the person of your dreams there....good luck
2007-03-28 15:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations for getting your life sorted
You can meet someone in the most unexpected places it doesn't mean you have to do the club scene
I believe there is someone for everyone so yours might be just around the corner
Just relax and enjoy yourself and you will meet someone Good Luck
2007-03-28 15:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Black Orchid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you turned 30, so what!!! You're still young and I am sure there is someone out there waiting to meet you, and form a special bond with you. Give it a bit of time, and dont look for it, just let it happen.
Sometimes we try so hard to make these things happen, that we forget that they are just meant to be.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 15:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sesoid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I am in the same position. I am actually 32. Its hard to meet serious people. As they say don't go looking. Just do your thing and don't be afraid to approach someone and ask them out. It works for me. The sad thing is that everyone seems to have issue. You just need to find someone that you can deal with their issues.
2007-03-28 15:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Paul S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your definitely not too old! Your still young.. If you feel like you are ready to go out and meet someone then get out and see who's out there =)
2007-03-28 15:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by jasmyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries mate
Women are having kids today in their 60's -and don't even have to worry about buying them toys etc - as all the mothers need to do is take them along to the BINGO HALL
Babies are natural gamblers
2007-03-28 21:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by jet99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋