There is this guy that I have had an interest in. We send internet messages back and forth but just can't manage to speak when we see each other at the gym. We just look at each other. I feel like I need to make some kind of move or I will be thinking "what if". The only problem is I usually go for the average looking guy and this guy is hot. He makes me nervous. What can I do?
2007-03-28 08:29:38 · 30 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming he knows it's you he's emailing with. If so, then email him " let's get a drink (whatever) after the gym" You'll get your answer really fast and you'll save yourself from the embarrassment if he says no
2007-03-28 08:33:35 · answer #1 · answered by whaleaway 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I bet you any money that he is thinking the same things, but USUALLY the guy is suppose to make the first move... I suppose this is why I'm still single...
Either way, I'm sure he has some kind of interest in you. I don't "just look" at anyone all the time for no reason, unless they are wearing a kilt and I can't help but to laugh at the same time.
Like you said, "what if." That is the worst thing to be sitting there thinking. You will never know unless you try. What's the worst that can happen, he says no? I am just so glad that I see a girl going through the same thing, leaving us boys/men to do all the work to get things started.
(edit) Also take into account what Crabbyone said. Go by that as well.
2007-03-28 15:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by brandonedbishop 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read my about me...were similar. (Texas) I had the same problem I always went for the average guy and was kind of scarred to go for the hot guy. I was in the similar position two years ago but luckily I knew his friend and was able to get to my boyfriend through him by asking his friend questions and hinting that I liked this guy. Now my boyfriend thinks it silly that I didn't just go and talk to him myself and regrets for not making the first move. I was the girl that always thought the guy should persue everything first but that is not how it is with me anymore at ALL. If you don't know any of his friends then ask him questions like how do you do this right, you sound like you work out a lot so ask him a questions like how many reps of this should I do. Just ask him questions and when you do place your hand right below his sholder to create a special bond that your focusing on only him. By doing this you will create a friendship and from there on you could go wherever you wanted with this hottie. Get to know him first though! Good luck!
2007-03-28 15:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by beautifuldisaster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This exact situation happened to me a few years ago (minus computer contact). There was this gorgeous guy at the gym that I would see several times a week. He seemed to be interested as well, as every time I looked at him, he'd look at me and smile. Well, finally, after about a year of this, I worked up the nerve to talk to him. I took a deep breath, walked over, and said, "Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm _______. I see you here all the time, and you seem like an interesting person, so I just wanted to say hi." I was really nervous, and was afraid I'd sound stupid, but he smiled and introduced himself and we talked for a few minutes. Luckily my aerobics class was starting upstairs, so I had a reason to leave. Unfortunately after that he continued to ignore me and nothing ended up happening. But it felt good to at least have made the effort. Go for it! What's the worst that can happen?
2007-03-28 15:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's probably interested too. If he's comfortable talking over the internet but can't seem to find anything to say to you face-to-face, then he's probably nervous. The best way to see it you two have a potential relationship coming your way is to make the first move. You've got to push through your nervousness and talk to him first. If not, you'll probably never get anywhere and end up dropping the whole thing.
2007-03-28 15:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Florence N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it and talk to him. You've already talked by email. Bring up some subjects you already talked about. Ask him questions and really listen to the answers. You have nothing to lose. If you say nothing, he'll probably think you're not interested. If you sound nervous when you talk to him, just say with a shy smile, "You make me a little nervous." He'll understand.
2007-03-28 15:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's too scared to approach you at the gym then maybe he's not interested. You should ask him if he's shy? Ask him if he has a wife? And ask him what his intentions are with you. If he only wants to meet you on line and in private places, then he's not the one for you. He's just a guy using the gym as a place to score.
2007-03-28 15:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by sheena1_35221 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jen_n_TX,
So I assume you're a Texan too, is that correct? What do Texans do when faced by a question like this? We take the Bull by the Horns and hang on for the ride. If you don't get slung off the Bull it's a good ride, if you do it's not meant to be. Does he know it's you emailing? If so then cowgirl up and go after that bull.
2007-03-28 15:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Deborah A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's strange, he'll message you but not talk to you when he sees you. So I guess this guy is just shy, maybe he thinks you're really hot and has the same problem you do. You better take action, because he may never get his nerves.
2007-03-28 15:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's obviously interested. Just step out of your character for a moment and talk to him. You'll never know what might happen if you don't! I talked to some guy I always thought was cute (and I am very, VERY shy.) We've been dating for three months now :) I say, go for it!
2007-03-28 15:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by kasey1720 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋