My best firend which i've known forever it seems
and hes not a virgin anymore..now all of a sudden hes beeing trying to get me to drink..and smoke..and have sex (not w/ him)
Im just sooo confused
its like i've tried drinking its not bad..but i just can have a hell of a time with out it...
and now sex everyone @ my school just talks about sex this and sex that
and im starting to get pressured..and it makes me feel really bad
HELPPPPPP
2007-03-28 08:26:36 · 21 answers · asked by KissMeHard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any fish without a backbone can easil y float downstream with the rest of the school! Stick up for what you believe in - don't let peer pressure get you to doing things you don't want to do!!
2007-03-28 08:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your situation before.
Its like this... your friends will do things that they think are cool and of course im sure your friends probably have said 'you should do this b/c its cool or you won't be cool if you dont do it.' I gave in to this situation in high school and started drinking, smoking, and having sex. then my grandma died, and soooo i started drinking and among other things more heavily..
Honestly i thought i was popular and cool when i did all this stuff but IT WAS NOT worth it, all my friends were getting arrested all the time, ive almost gotten arrested, and my reputation was ruined.
It took me years to realize i was destroying my life and relationship with my parents. I am finally over all of it. I'm now engaged and a junior in college. but my "friends" haven't been so lucky..
Pleaseeeeee.. don't give into doing what your so-called friends do b/c it will only cause conflict between your parents, school and EVERYTHING...
.. if you are going to have sex, use a condom and do it with someone you know, trust, and love.
.. your friends aren't truly your friends if they are going to pressure you in this way.. i know its hard but you probably should find a new crowd to hang out with..
----------I wish you the best of luck with all this.. please take my advice... b/c i wish someone had slapped some sense into me at that time.! :-/
2007-03-28 15:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anna Ry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was and is truly your best friend he would not pressure you. Young minds have young thoughts and ideas SOMETIMES. A true friend would want you to be happy and content with any decision that you make. Sex is wonderful when its w/someone you truly love. When you get to know YOU and YOUR likes. When it's interrupted, scheduled, cold, dark etc.. it's not going to be enjoyable. Bad things can and probably will, arise from it. There are so many things that can go wrong. Stay true to yourself and you will find that you will be respected more and will love yourself more. Follow your intuition. It will never fail you when it's positive.
2007-03-28 15:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by sunshoni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where u are coming from sweetie and all i can tell you is don't ever let anyone pressure u into doing anything u don't want to. You have the rest of your life to be sexually active so u don't have to rush. And if u have friensds that u feel are pressuring u then hey kick their asses to the side cause u don't need friends like that anyway. Good Luck Sweetie
2007-03-28 15:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by His 1 & Only 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is nothing more sexy to a guy when you get older than someone that is not a slut, and the best gift you can give to someone you truly love is yourself. Don't just have sex because everyone else is doing it. You can stand your ground and maybe not tell them the cliche answer, "i'm saving myself for... blah blah blah" but just come back with something smart *** and funny like, i'm not a slut, no one is good enough to get this...somethign that makes you still look cool but gets the point across...
2007-03-28 15:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by slickpam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your dealing with pure pressure. Don't follow others that are going down the wrong path because later on there will be consequences for your actions in the long run. I was pressured to do all those things that you mentioned and I backed down because I knew they weren't good choices to make. I got called a few names such as scaredy cat.
2007-03-28 15:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by prettyting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your so-called friends to shut the hell up it is your body, and when the time is right “for you not them” you will make love with a special person. However, I really think you should find yourself a new set of friends other teenagers that will accept you for whom you are, and that will not try to change you.
2007-03-28 15:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember this and you will be fine. Yeah sex is good and sometimes it can be really good. But if you want it to be the best that it can ever be. And I mean incredible sex wait until your married and you will never have any regrets.
2007-03-28 15:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by kinreep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex when you feel ready to and with someone you intend to be with in a long term monogamous married relationship. This is why so many flippin diseases out here everyone sleeps with everyone.
2007-03-28 15:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is good. Certainly worth doing. But no need to feel pressure.
2007-03-28 15:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋