My 15 year old son snuck into his girlfriends home late one night to have sex. The girl's father found him hiding in a closet completely naked. The father told my son to never come back and hit him with a stick as he left. He wasn't inured just scared. Should I have the father charged with assault and battery?
2007-03-28 08:16:31 · 29 answers · asked by Dazedandconfused 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No--if I found a boy in my daughters closet, he would be lucky to just be scared and not hurt--and then I would get him out of the house before my husband killed him. How would you feel if the roles were reversed? You definately have to talk to your son--and quit worrying about what the other parent did--it's his house and your son was an intruder--and worry more about teaching your kid what not to do. If you press charges, you're telling your son that there's nothing wrong with what he and the girl were doing and that the father had no right to be upset. Keep going like you are and you're going to be a grandparent a lot sooner than you'd like.
2007-03-31 14:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by dmarie2101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There were some really good answers here. I'm with the "no" people from the reasons stated above. Another thing to consider is that your son made up the part about getting hit with a stick to try to lessen his own punishment or consequence.
Think of how that father must feel. Fathers are very protective of their daughters, and you should respect him for that. Your son invaded his home and violated his daughter. Even if she made a decision on her own to allow it to happen, she is still a minor and is legally under her parents' protection.
Your son should suffer the consequences of his actions. It is your duty as a parent to show him what those consequences might be. That girl could still turn on him and say he tried to rape her to get out of trouble herself, and the father could press charges against your son. Your son is not in the clear.
2007-03-28 08:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by Nels 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You that can be very serious kids need discipline I would not call the police that puts the whole at risk I am going through this now my mom called the police on me cost me 2500 to get they took my baby all because my older son wants to run wild and I whooped him if you think the father is hard seek counseling or parenting classes not the police there was a time when families knew how to deal with issues now everyone wants to have someone else deal with your problems all the police do is make it worse not better that could put you at risk to your son probally need his *** whooped having sex in closet naked whats wrong with these kids now a days take your son to a sex education class at clinic in your area let him know how to have safe sex beings he has made the choice to go ahead and be grown and your husband can go to parenting classes I hope you did not say police in front of the kid that is a BIG NO NO. Keep that talk behind closed doors Wish you luck GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY
2007-03-28 08:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by undecided nay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think charging would solve any problems because the girlfriend's father can counter it by filing a case against your son for trespassing. Even if the girlfriend was willing to have sex,your son could be charged for rape?sexual harassment?who knows?Law is really complicated.Think about the humiliation your son would have go to through.Naked???Closet???stick???C"mon!!!You are the mom you have to do the dual role of a parent and friend.You need to explain to him how lucky he was for not getting totally knocked out.Also on your list should be stds and how premarital sex is totally a taboo in the society. You have been his mother for 15 years and in this span you have made plenty of complicated decisions and dont see this as any exception.He needs you to be his leader to show him the path to socialization.As a mom your job is always to make sure the generation and communication gap between you and your son is as narrow as possible.Anyways good luck!!!
2007-03-30 15:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by James S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any proof that your son was hit by this man? Unfortunately, he could just deny the allegations and then you would be left holding the bag for a "frivolous" lawsuit. Are you ok with him sneaking around to have sex? Perhaps a good scare was just what he needed. (And not the type of scare that comes with becoming a father at 15.)
2007-03-28 08:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't push it with that family; you're lucky that the father didn't press charges for trespassing or something like that. I would probably be upset that he hit my child, but overall you have to see the dad's point of view! I would strongly suggest that you have a talk with your son about having sex at such a young age AND sneaking into someone's house to do it. If he is bound and determined to do it, then there is only so much you can say or do, but hopefully he is a resepctful and sensible boy and will listen to his mother. Oh goodness, I have twin boys that are 8...I don't want them to grow up! Good luck!
2007-03-28 08:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by Twin+1 Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how you would feel if it were your daughter. I know I personally would want to do a whole lot more than hit him with a stick if I found him naked in MY daughter's closet. However, I doubt I would have the nerve to do it. Unfortunately, it's a very "normal" part of being 15 (as scary as that is), so it's hard to discipline him. Have a very serious talk with him and make sure that if he is going to have sex, he is informed and protected.
2007-03-28 08:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lorie D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i do not know what would you do if you found a naked boy in your daughters closet? He is lucky he only got off with the stick, if it would have been my daughter they both would have had a problem. Protect him? yeah from an unwanted pregnancy and being another teen parent. Come on parents, keep track of you children!
2007-03-28 08:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, but you should spend some time with your son letting him know it's not appropriate at 15 to sneak into a girls house to have sex. He's lucky all the father did was smack him with a stick.
2007-03-28 08:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by exaltedchick 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No, you should talk to your son and tell him why he was lucky he didn't get the worst effect. Lady they are 15, he has to show some type of respect! He is 15 only the man of the house who brings home the pay is who gets laid in that home. Excuse Me!
2007-03-28 08:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by 511@ 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋