OK I'll try to make this short. I dated my ex for a short time then HE ended it. He's 26, I'm 21. He has lots of experience with dating, while he was my first kiss & first bf. Our relationship was so innocent, cuddling in his room, holding hands, kissing. We never had sex cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage. He would still say hi to me on msn even though HE ended it. It has been over for more than ONE YEAR. 2 months ago, he called me, after one yr. & wanted to make plans together so we could see a movie sometime. We set a date, he picked me up & after the movie he took me home. On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to "see me every once in awhile". I felt disrespected so when I got home I said "bye forever" to him on msn. Then I felt badso a week later I said sorry to him on msn. Sincethen I have said hi to him 2 on msn.Then a few days ago he said hi to me on msn & he wanted to know what I had been up to. What is he doing?
2007-03-28 08:13:01 · 6 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 26 & next year he's moving out of his parents & moving in w/ a friend. He also is getting his MBA & he just got a very good job. Meanwhile, I'm still in university & living w/ my parents. Our life paths are so diff. so why does he continue talking to me, how does this benefit him?
2007-03-28 08:13:35 · update #1
Well, obviously since you never consumated your relationship with him, he has a lot of respect for you. He never tried to convince you to do it. He never pressured you to do anything right? There's nothing wrong with saying hi on MSN or seeing eachother once in awhile. Maybe he just feels like his relationship with you is very comfortable and he can be himself with you with nothing attached. You should be happy he still wnats to be friends and hang out even as your lives are very different now! He may even have some strong feelings for you, and wants to wait on you...Maybe you're meant to be!
2007-03-28 08:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..hun?...maturity and age are different things darling. He sounds much more mature and ready to handle a little bit bigger relationship then you are darling. You're waiting for marriage to undo the things that thrill him darling...and he has respected that aspect of you up until this moment anyways. He admires your effort to hang onto your virginity...but also understand he wants to also fly with you sensually here too. It's a fight he's having in his own mind hun...he just doesn't know that life long he may not be with you really. He still wants a taste of you darling. Don't hang him out to dry for wanting that babe. That's just the natural order of a mans mind and body functions otherwise. You two are both meeting each other with different goals in life sweety...besides...he's got your sex on his brain too. Don't flog him for his natural instincts babe. he's a guy with a heart and emotion filled moments too. Be kind to him babe...and it will come back to ya someday ten fold.
2007-03-28 08:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like he's fallan in love he can't let go of you. honestly did u really expect a 26 yr old to be in a relationship and not have sex lets be real. He might of fallen in love with who you are but your not tryna give up the goods and im sure he's not tryna rush into a marriage. You've basically told him if you want my goodies put a ring on my finger and thats enough to scare any man away. Yes he's ended it but he misses you like crazy. If you want him back give it up and you never know you might just get that ring
2007-03-28 08:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your ex contacts you because he is lonely and is hoping you will change your mind and sleep with him. It is easy for him to go back to you when he is lonely because you have history and it is easier than trying to pick up a new girl. While you have been stressing over him, how many good relationship opportunities have you missed out on because you were not open to them? Stand up for yourself--tell him it's over. Don't let him use you as his toy. And don't waste the pretty!
2007-03-28 08:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by britonbard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably reaching a point in his life where he's realizing that he wants to settle down, and "grow up" and maybe he wants you to be a part of that. But he wants to start slow.
2007-03-28 08:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by Gizmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must seriously consider if he just want to be with you whenever he is in a mood.I say do not play his game.Make him play your game.
2007-03-28 08:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋