Long story short.I was with a guy for 2 yrs we broke up because of a lot of things but 1 of the most important was that he was a big lier!
I am trying 2 give him a secound chance but he lying 2 me again what should i do trust and forgive or stay stupid?
2007-03-28 07:55:47 · 22 answers · asked by ~**Hooters**~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Betrayal is the hardest thing to forgive. Because you never know when you're going to be betrayed again (and again). The only way it can be done is with total honest and open communication. He needs to provide you with total access to his life (cell phones, email, thoughts). Also he has to allow you to vent when you have triggers that bring all the bad choices he made to the forefront. Here is a site that gives you tools to work through it, but honestly... is it worth it? It's very hard to build trust again and if he's already doing it again, he is not really vested in that commitment. I wouldn't invest the time and energy, but I've been there and know how much of my life it took from me.
2007-03-28 08:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know what you should do. If one of the BIG reasons you broke up with him is because he was lying to you all of the time, why would you consider giving him a second chance, especially if you know that he is lying to you still. There's a thing that's called trust, and without it, no relationship can survive.
2007-03-28 08:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by TmB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. You gave him a second chance and he is still lying. That's the point of dating. Trying to see if you can make a future with this person
2007-03-28 08:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An individual who lies to you repeatedly will continue to do so and there is no room for trusting them. Apparently, this individual is a compulsive liar and definitely not to be believed. You deserve better than that. No relationship worthy of having can ever be based on lies, and shattered faith in them.
A man worth your time will be careful to be honest with you. A lasting, worthwhile relationship is based on honesty, and integrity...NEVER on lies. You deserve a man who is honest and unselfish in his motives. Please...keep looking. You will be much happier if you set standards and stick with them.
2007-03-28 08:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Dixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide when you have had enough and put a stop to his lying. When you decide you no longer want to be the victim then it will be over. It's YOUR choice. He's already decided he will continue to lie but he can't make YOUR choice for you.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 08:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is lying to you now he will always lie to you,
you have a choice to make
Be unhappy live with the lies. or
Take a step forward
You are a great person and deserve much better.
2007-03-28 08:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by trawet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give him a chance. if he's lying now its just gonna keep getting worse. you should think bout your future and think if you would want a husband like that. i say drop him. once a liar always a liar. and plus if he REALLY did love you he would not lie to you.
2007-03-28 08:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can't help but lie to make themselves something there not . Some people are pathological lie-rs and some just do it for fun. Your guy might have problems and may need help.
2007-03-28 08:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust liars. He is showing you who he is, don't ignore it. If a man is a liar he has some serious growing up to do. There are plenty of men out there who are honest and mature.
2007-03-28 07:59:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl plz u best not forgive him he did it once he will do it again i know i've been there n done that so i say u are stupid if u forgive him k good luck
2007-03-28 08:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by soyelnegrito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋