There is this guy that I have had an interest in. We send internet messages back and forth but just can't manage to speak when we see each other at the gym. We just look at each other. I feel like I need to make some kind of move or I will be thinking "what if". The only problem is I usually go for the average looking guy and this guy is hot. He makes me nervous. What can I do? For more details look at my last question.
2007-03-28 07:52:57 · 5 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the same thing happened to me. its a lot easier to talk on the phone or online. its a lot more uncomfortable when you see each other in person. hes probly too shy to day any thing so if i were you i would make the first move. if you walk by him make eye contact smile and say hey.
good luck!!!
2007-03-28 07:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have an internet relationship and nothing in person? Sounds a little weird--like he is humoring you. Or maybe he is very shy. Either way, stop waiting for something to happen and take control of the situation. Don't think of him as "hot guy"--think of him as a regular guy who is a human being just like you. Remind yourself that you are awesome, take a deep breath and approach him at the gym. Comment on his shirt, ask him to spot you or demonstrate a piece of equipment. Guys like to feel useful. Ahead of time find an upcoming event that you can invite him to--like a concert in the park. Work this into the conversation and ask him out. If he accepts, then yay! If he declines or seems to be looking for any excuse not to go, move on. Don't waste the pretty! Besides, there is probably some cute guy at the gym who has been working up the nerve to talk to you.
2007-03-28 15:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by britonbard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be nervous, people are people. Guys are guys. My guess is he would be flatterd to be approached by you. what you think is "hot" might not be someone else idea of hot, so just be yourself.... calm, cool, and casual and say this to him.
"I am going for a bite to eat after the gym and if you wanted to join me it might be nice." smile and walk away
Hope that works for ya
2007-03-28 15:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by xyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMGOSHH!! the same thing ALWAYS happens 2 me. but i always get over it somehow n act normal. I guess thinking about all the other way prettier girls that he could b talkin 2 makes me feel not so confident. So i jus try n forget about everyone else n jus think about him n me n nothing ever seems to even bother me.
HOPE i HElPED!! = ]
2007-03-28 15:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you!So why don't you make the first move,like you said you woundn't want to ask yourself "what if" right?Well then go for it.There is nothing wrong with you liking a hot guy,just be confident in yourself and picture him as a regular guy so you wont be so nervous..Good luck!
2007-03-28 15:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by carmel_cutie26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋