it's not his daughter that gets on my nerves it 's how he acts with her and how he treats her when there together how do i deal with him?
2007-03-28 07:49:46 · 17 answers · asked by Joanna P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First - TALK TO HIM..communication is the key to all relationships.
Second - Stop trying to compete with his child. You are some girl he's been dating for five months...the little girl is his daughter...she will (and should) always take priority.
Third - Stop being so sensetive...she's a little girl, she needs her daddy...if it makes you uncomfortable...try to be supportive and get involved...if your boyfriend sees you accept his daughter...there are better chances that he will open up to you while she's there.
2007-03-28 07:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
How serious is it between the two of you? Is it something that you might be a future step mom? If not, maybe he wants to protect his daughter to let her know that she is important to him. If you do see a future together, you need to realize that she will always be a huge part in his life, and as a good parent, he will put her first. If this is something that makes you uneasy, then I would suggest taking some time apart.
Maybe tell him on the weekends he has his daughter that the three of you do something fun. You will need to accept the daughter and not resent her. If you can't stop the resentment, then it would be best to break up now before anyone gets hurt.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 08:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by oklady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a little jealous. If this is going to be a big issue you may want to find a new boyfriend. His daughter will always come before you sorry to tell you, she is his flesh and blood, you are a girlfriend. If he only gets certain times to visit with her he probably just wants to make the most out of it, instead of being jealous find a way for all three of you to do fun activities and spend time together.
2007-03-28 07:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by exaltedchick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I agree with a lot of the others above me - grow up! I can't believe you are jealous of a 5 yr old. Maybe you should not be around when she is there. That will definitely show him how you feel and then he can evaluate whether or not he wants to continue dating a self centered brat.
2007-03-28 08:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by GP 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its his daughter grow up and be the adult at least hes being a parent would you rather he be a dead beat dad? Your his girlfriend for the moment its his daughter for life. If you want him to spend time with you to while shes around why dont you all three do something fun together you might actually end up liking his daughter.
2007-03-28 07:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His Daughter is obviously his first priority. If you want the relationship to work - you will need to include yourself in their time together. Get down on the floor and play with her. You can color books, play Barbies, play tea time. etc. Do the girly stuff with her that he can't do. It will show him that you want to be a part of his/her life. If you continue to act jealous - you two will end up breaking up. If you don't like kids or feel that you really can't/don't want to compete - you should end the relationship.
2007-03-28 07:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by ggirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a bigger child then the 5 year old. He suppose to give his child more attention then anyone else when he has her you fool you. Get a grip on real life. The world doesn't revolve around a self centered immature brat like you.
2007-03-28 07:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He might just be trying to make sure that she knows he loves her even though he has a gf. What I'd probably try to do is form a relationship with the child myself. That would put you and your bf on the same side, and I am betting this would ease tensions.
2007-03-28 07:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men do not treat their kids as good as their current "flavor of the week". My advice: DEAL WITH IT. He's being a man and taking care of his responsibilities and trying to be as good of a daddy as he can. Like I said: DEAL WITH IT.
2007-03-28 18:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't deal with him, this is the problem when you shack up with a man who has a child. You will NEVER come first. And if he is a good parent he will not put you first. So run get a man w/ no strings.
2007-03-28 08:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋