I haven't talked to a girl I missed for 11 months. We were only friends for four months but I really liked her and eventually fell in love with her. Last week I tried to talk to her for the 1st and last time, for if she still didn't want to talk to me anymore. She didn't as she completely ignored me. Five days later-yesterday-a teacher pulled me out of class and took me to an admin's office, explaining that the girl went to her about me that day and told me to please leave her alone. She told me the girl's mom called the school about me. The teacher said "It's not that she doesn't like you, it's that she doesn't like you in that way." If it's not that she doesn't like me, then why was I called out of class behind her and I didn't even do anything to be called out of class for, I used to feel. I couldn't understand why the girl couldn't stand me and/or why she just didn't want to talk to me, or why she told a teacher on me as if I was constantly calling her (I've called once then hung up out of fear) or bothering her.
I went to the guidance counselor today and the admin that was with me and the teacher yesterday came in the room with me. I was telling the counselor how I felt, and he said the girl wasn't trying to get me in trouble, she just cares about me to not want to hurt my feelings and that's why she had a teacher intervene. Even though I think her ignoring me hurt a lot. I wonder if even though I told her I just want to be friends again (which is all I want because I know she'll never like me) if she could still tell that I still love her. I wonder if she felt that if we were friends, that I would always want more than she could ever give because she just didn't feel the same. I wonder if she felt that by being friends with me and not returning my exact feelings for her, she was hurting me more than just flat-out not wanting to talk to me. The guy said that she does care about me, I guess even if it doesn't seem that way by her ignoring me. I just really care about her, probably more so then some of her friends who didn't realize today is her birthday like I do. I'm just never going to try to talk to her again even though I may never see her again. I feel like she's so close yet so far away.
2007-03-28 07:30:33 · 7 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then people don't seem to understand or hear me when I say that when I was talking to her, three months into us talking I realized she may never like me but I felt that's ok as long as we're friends. I only wanted us to at least be friends. I felt that she could date other boys and then she would see that I was the right guy for her from her experiences. It seemed like she was everything I ever wanted in a girl and after three months of us talking I fell for her but never told her.
2007-03-28 07:31:22 · update #1
I remember defending her to people telling me she's nothing special. What happened yesterday made me feel bitter towards her. Now that I'm seeing this thing from a different perspective, that maybe she doesn't see me as a stalker or someone who harasses (remember I only tried to talk to her once) but she just doesn't want to be the one to hurt me and just wants to help me get over her. That makes her all the more special to me, which makes me love her all the more, which makes me 100% willing to let her go gently even though it hurts really bad.
2007-03-28 07:39:57 · update #2
i did as you said and saw your new question.. you need to move on! move on! my goodness, i'm telling you let it go. if she is childish enough to have her mom call the school then she isn't worth it. i know that you may think so, but you'll understand soon enough. so dont hate her or loathe her or anything, she isn't worth your time if she's hurting you. i know, usually, when i've unintentionally hurt someone but i try to heal it, i've been hurt too many times. please try to get over her, i know its hard to get over someone that is bringing you down but you're going to have to if you want to be a full person! but if you need to talk about your pain or even her, feel free to e-mail me @ november_nights@hotmail.com.
2007-03-28 15:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kihara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a smart person. I can tell that by what you say. You did not do anything wrong. It is her loss. You will make some girl very happy someday. She did not deserve you.
2007-03-28 14:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Niddy G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her happy birthday..if nobody else realizes that it's her birthday maybe it will help her realize that you really do care about her and that you guys could be friends
2007-03-28 14:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
if her mother is calling the school then i think shes kinda crazy, you did nothing wrong!
2007-03-28 14:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to become her friend. its a tough sitaution but if its meant to be it will all work out. good luck!
2007-03-28 14:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by imissy0u* ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should respect her rights.. If she says leave her alone, you should.. If not, you are stalking...
2007-03-28 14:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Its me!!! :) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to let go of her, and empathically IGNORE HER...PERIOD.
2007-03-28 14:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋