Okay, my ex and I are in love but we had to break up because my mom didn't want us to be together because she doesn't like him. That's the ONLY reason why we broke up. We want to get back together, but we're not sure how my mom will take the news. We plan on moving in together when I turn 18 in a year and a half. He's already 18. What do you think I should do? Get back with him or get over him?
Thank You,
Brystle
2007-03-28 07:28:25 · 25 answers · asked by Brystle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was in the same situation. if you really love him, go for it. just make sure your mom is ok with it. sit her down and tell her how you feel, she`ll probably agree with you if you talk to her one on one. if she still doesnt agree, theres probably a reason she doenst like your bf and maybe you should listen to her. remember, she has your best interest at heart. good luck!
2007-03-28 07:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting back with him against your mom's wishes by sneaking around is not the answer. Have a heart-to-heart with her and explain why you want to get back in the relationship. Maybe offer to compromise....like asking him to spend more time at your house under her supervision and/or coming home earlier without stretching the curfew. If this doesn't work, then you're going to have to respect her wishes. If you are truly in love, and it's meant to be, then you both can wait the year and a half to be together. If he doesn't wait for you, then he wasn't worth it anyway. Good luck!
2007-03-28 14:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to sit your mum down and ask her why she doesn't like him. Tell her you don't want the "I said so" answer. I used to hate that when my mother did it. Ugghh. Tell her how you really feel and tell her you'd like for them to spend time together. Moving in as soon as you turn 18 is a bad idea. I'm sorry to say, but it really is. You need to live on your own first. Just have him over to spend the night and vice versa. Living with a person is a hell of a lot different than dating them. Eventually move in together, but you'll regret it if you move in right away.
2007-03-28 14:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by ¸.•*´`*♥ ♥Melissa♥ ♥*´`*•.¸ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your young so take time to get to now other people too, maybe going out on some double dates with others. You maybe great for one another but maybe you should ask your mother why she wants you two to break up. Maybe she has a reason she hasn't told you... the conversation probably get pretty heated just try to understand where she might be coming from ... she might have had some similar experience in her dating.
2007-03-28 14:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by man of noble character 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think youre both not yet financially stable yet very much inlove to each other,try talking to your mom and settle everything,If this sounds too hard then jst wait a little longer and do your best to finish college for your future,If you cant wait and are ready to take all the risk and consequences then follow your heart,But in every decisions always ask guidance from GOD,,,,,
2007-03-28 14:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this is to admit. Moms are always right!
My mom in the past didn't like my boyfriends and she was always right...
Your mom might be doing it because your still young and she would like you to live your life before settleling down.
It took me a while to understand my mom but I understand now... My mom is my best friend....
UNDERSTAND that your mom just wants the best for you...even though we don't make the best decisions sometimes because we are blinded by love.
Good luck!
Don't be sad...cheer up! =)
2007-03-28 14:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okai if I was you, still communicate with him but not rush it too much to be together... I mean just wait till your 18 and then be with him, i mean your mom is not the one going to marry this guy, but im telling you right now you think he might be the one in your life but you have so much things in life you don't even have experienced yet, and this problem will be nothing to you when you do...so my advise to u is to make sure you keep your priority above him and just go with the flow with him... if you guys are really meant to be then you will be together, but now just have to see and be patient. =)
2007-03-28 14:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hype 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back with him. That happened to me and my girl in high school cause her mom didn't like me. And now we are back together after we met back up after almost 10 years, got together after i got divorced and her mom loves me. Go figure. But i wish we stayed together then.
2007-03-28 14:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd need more info to answer this. Why doesnt she like him? Maybe there is a legit reason. SOmetimes your parents are right and as kids, you dont see it that way until you are older. Happened to me. I understand them now that I am older (24). Well, I understand them more. And why they restrict things.
If her reason is race or religion, Id say DEF be with him. But if she has a valid argument....I dont know.
2007-03-28 14:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jukebox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your mom have a good excuse. Until your 18 you can't sneak around. If he respects you then he'll wait until your 18.
2007-03-28 14:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by fiveninebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋