my sister baby sits this little four year old boy who is a complete terror. He runs rampid most of the time with no clothes on, he throws food, eats candy to no end and refuses to listen to anyone. I've met his parents they don't belive in punishment or time out. They basically bribe him not to do it again even though he still does. He is still not potty trained. They think he will learn on his own. I hope soon because now the diaper is the enemy and he goes where ever he is at the time. He screams throw temperatantrums and he has no bed time its a wonder the kid ever sleeps. HELP ME!
2007-03-28 07:19:17 · 18 answers · asked by purplepurp21 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
WOW!!!!! I have to agree with Mattymom. If the parents aren't willing to do anything about it she'll never get anywhere even if she tries. A child needs everyone and anyone who takes care of them to follow the same ground rules. It sounds like the parents need a reality check. What the he** kind of parents does this kid have?
It seems that the parents really don't give a sh** about their child. If all he's eating is candy I hope they bruch his teeth so they don't rot out. If he's not eating other foods I'm sure he's malnourished. And I'm sorry, but @ 4yrs old they need to start teching him to use the potty. What do they want him to lose out on education because he can't go to school because he can't use they restroom? This sound like a desperate case for Supernanny! I love that show.
2007-03-28 07:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a child care provider you have to have your own set of rules and if that parent doesn't like those rules they should find someone else. When I was potty training the child I watch I just made her go in the bathroom every 2 hours if she had to go or not. Being with a child for the most part of the day makes the job harder on you. The child learns from you. I would suggest having your own disapline rules. Discuss them with the parent and the child. Talk to the child see what entertains him and do learning projects.
2007-03-28 14:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by anna_lisa_star 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ditto poster 1, stop babysitting for this one. His parents obviously have no idea about parenting (We've done nothing and it hasn't helped a bit!).
When he hurts your sister (yes a 4 yo could even kill if he got his hands on a knife) it will be too late.
I would also tell his parents exactly _why_ the babysitting service is ending. That will probably produce hard feelings, but it may be worth it in this case.
Thats what I would do, your mileage may vary.
2007-03-28 14:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by credo quia est absurdum 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because the parents don't believe in punishment that doesn't mean you can't punish him!!Definetely DO NOT let the kid walk all over you because then he'll do it even more because he knows he can. Time outs work really well for my almost 4 yr old. He'll act like he hates you at first, but in time he will adjust and will love and respect you for it. All in all kids need and WANT discipline and it makes for a good well rounded adult.
2007-03-28 14:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think of it this way - thank god its not your son.
When your sister babysits, leave the house. There is no reason to subject yourself to that little monster who became the way he is because his parents do not know how to be parents. Sadly, there are no laws against spoiling a child and this child has been utterly spoiled. You can mention that he needs disciplining to the parents but I doubt it will work if they put up with his bad behavior like this. I hope that when he goes to kindergarten, the teacher will put some sense into him.
2007-03-28 14:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by TMemories 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Clearly your sister is in a situation where she has little control. Not good when she is ultimately responsible for anything the child does under her supervision. I think she should tell the parents that she can no longer sit for them. If they ask why, she should be honest and tell them the truth. Who knows, maybe they will realize the injustice they are doing their son.
2007-03-28 14:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why the heck does she baby sit this kid it wouldn't be worth 100 dollars to spend five minutes with him. If I were baby sitting him he would get time outs until he behaves and he would use the potty or else. If they fired me so what?
2007-03-28 14:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Huey from Ohio 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would quit the job and call social services. this child needs to be taught some self discipline and the parents need to be taught about parenting. that poor child is missing out on so much. this is why discipline, rules, and guidelines are set into place. too bad his mom and dad don't see it that way. call nanny 911.
2007-03-28 14:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by missi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If his parents won't get him to listen and behave, tell your sister that she's wasting her time because she won't get anywhere babysitting a complete terror.
2007-03-28 21:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Zack H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This just doesn't sound like good parenting, I don't know if there's much you can do. What you might want to think about is contacting social services because this is neglect.
2007-03-28 14:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lys 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋