... IF you had kids together, or would your reaction be the same? Why or why not?
2007-03-28 07:16:17 · 23 answers · asked by his love 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hummmm, this is a toughie, I might give them a 2nd chance but it would take me a long time to fully trust them again.
I'd be more likely to give them a second chance if the kids were young, as I feel it's super important for kids (especially younger ones) to have easy access to Dad. But if it he cheated a second time, he'd be shown directly to the doggie door, with my foot.
2007-03-28 07:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all: NEVER STAY TOGETHER FOR THE KIDS!!! You being miserable will make your kids miserable.
Second: It depends on the relationship you had prior to the infidelity. If you can't talk privately try going to a mediator or counselor to help you talk to each other. You should also pray about it.
Unfortunately, after kids, one mate tends to put the kids first and forget about the person who helped them make the kids.
This is something you'll have you weigh out on your own. No one knows what they will do until they are in the situation. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-28 14:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by Pieces of Me ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt give them a second chance. i have a baby i think it is actually worse if partners cheat when children are involved,it goes to show they really dont care about their family that would hurt me for the children sake,to then try and explain why the partner isnt at home anymore to a child would be horrible.
maybe some people do cheat when children are involved hoping to get away with it because some people would stay together for the childrens sake
which i think dont help the children at all
2007-03-28 14:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by crazycase2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes no one is perfect. I think everyone deserves a second chance but don't let them keep making the same stupid mistake. If you feel in your heart that the cheating will not happen again then try to work it out even if it is for the sake of the children.
2007-03-28 14:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by ~Ta-Ta Licious~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this exact situation. I cheated on my wife of three years after a very strenuous and hurtful time. I had no good reason to cheat on her but I did and since then we have been having a very difficult time. We trust issues before on MY part because I didnt always have good boundaries with other woman. I have asked her and pleaded with her to stay because I swore not to stray again. She has decided, for now, to stay and try to make the marriage work. I am going to go to counseling, talk openly and honestly with her and the counselor so that I can begin to rebuild my relationship and salvage what we have left. It wil;l be a hard road but I want to put in the effort. I'm not saying you should take your partner back, but if you do its going to be difficult and they should be willing to not only discuss it very openly, but try to get help to rebuild the trust.
2007-03-28 14:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by B Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well......... Maybe. Everyone deserves a second chance. However, you also put your life at chance for disease. Having kids also complicates the situation. I would say if you give your partner a second chance express that it is only that. No more thereafter. Forgive but don't forget, but don't dangle their indiscretion in their face. Actually give it a chance. Being accusative will only bring more tension.
2007-03-28 14:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by sandibrks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience, you give them a second chance and things go great for a while then you're right back to square one. Listen to your heart, follow your intuition, they are both generally right. Don't do it for the kids because it doesn't matter what decision is made they are affected by it .
2007-03-28 14:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Queen WahidVII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way would i give the person a second chance, with or without children involved. The trust would be gone so there would be no reason to stay together.
2007-03-28 14:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by me2you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean give them a second chance to cheat on you?
The fact that you have kids didn't keep them from cheating on you to begin with, so why should it matter now?
If you like being a doormat, give them a second chance. I guess that would be their reward for cheating...nice one.
2007-03-28 14:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i cheated on my bf and he took me back because he loved me i don't think i would took him back we had no kids at that point. Now I'm pregnant and we are married so if he cheated now i would want to why and what i did or didn't do in order for him to have to go else where. i would feel really hurt but if i understood his reasons i think i would take him back i just all depends on the situation your in but kids make a difference for sure about how you do things and how you feel
2007-03-28 14:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by huff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋