My boyfriend won't allow me to check his myspace, should I be mad?

Question

I was upstairs one day and he accidently forgot to sign out, so I went to the messages and saw that he's been talking to this other dude, but as I was trying to read it, it moved me out of the way and signed out. All I saw in the email was something about from the dude asking my boyfriend when were they gon hook up, and I don't know how I should feel about this. We've been together for over 5 years, and right now, were trying to move to LA together, should I do this? When I asked him about his myspace, he's so private about it which leaves me under the impression that he's hiding something from me!! What should I do? What would you do?

Answer 1

You have to decide if this is a problem you want to deal with down the road. I personally wouldn't be too happy as there is a reason why he don't want you on his myspace. I don't want my spouse hiding things from me or feel that he must hide things from me. A relationship is a partnership and without honesty and communication it is doomed to failure. So if he is already hiding something as simple as his myspace I could only assume that he is hiding much more. If you allow him to keep you out of this you will be opening up a can of worms in the future as you've allowed him to keep things from you. When we are in relationships we actually teach our spouses how to treat us. So if we allow them to lie to us, they will. And if you don't allow lying you will argue your point until you feel satisfied. Which will show your spouse the hell you will put him through if he lies again, telling him you won't tolerate this. By tolerating this, he will expect more tolerance from you with other aspects. Now it's just myspace, tomarrow it could be the computer and next week it can end up being his cell phone and so forth. If he loves you and wants to be with only you, then there is no reason for such privacy from you. I say this because when we are single we are individuals. But when we become a couple/partnership and get married we are to become one. We are to share everything with our spouse, not only what we want to share. Besides, how could you trust anyone who expects to be able to hide things from you? You love this man and probably wish to share every part of your life with him. He should also feel this way. Which really is an indicator that he is either not ready for a mature relationship or that he has a problem with opening up and sharing. Either way, you are setting the tone of this relationship for the future. So do you mind him being so secretive in the future when your lives together are much more complicated with kids and a mortgage? You must decide if you are willing to deal with this. Good Luck & God Bless!

Answer 2

He is hiding something! I know that's why I never let my ex check my myspace and vice versa! We weren't even friends on there cuz we both had something to hide! Honestly I don't think you should do anything to serious until you guys have everything out in the open! Why don't you have your myspace together? Too many doubts hon...seriously, get them out before you do something so serious as to move in together and you regret it! Cuz for all you know, this guy he's talking to IS in L.A. and next thing you know, he leaves for him and you have no one out here and no where to go!

Answer 3

Yes. You should be mad. If hes not cheating on you, hes lying about what hes doing, and therefore probably thinking about cheating on you with another dude. Bust him or you're going to end up getting hurt and feeling stupid for have believing him since the start. There is no good reason for him being so secretive. It would be one thing if he was buying something for you on EBay and didnt want you to see it, but hes obviously being shady. Tell him to pack sand. Good luck.

Answer 4

i think you have every right to know whats in his my space or any other space he has.there aint much difference in dating and being married other than a certificate and a special day.He is hiding something from you and you should consider downloading a key logger and that will give you the password to his account and you should look in it.Most of these people say let him have his my space and whatever but thats because their men/women arent doing that,and how in the world is myspace like a diary lmao get real

Answer 5

I think that somethings are personal and I wouldn't want anyone snooping around in my personal space. On the other hand why would a man be asking him things like that? Either he is being open-minded about his sexuality or the have something placed and just want to meet.

Answer 6

okay a couple of things you should ask yourself?

1. Do you love and trust this dude
2. Has he hurt you in the past
3. What is he hiding from you maybe a suprise
4. Are you suspisious
5. Do you have a right to invade in his privercy after all it is his messages

and the L.A thing well you can desdie for yourself with that one AFTER ALL IT IS ONLY THE INTERNET!!!!

Answer 7

I wouldn't be mad but i sure would be wondering what was on there. After 5 years he shouldn't have anything to hid. Give him some time and ask again. Good Luck

Answer 8

Hes hiding something, so what? Unless you intend to do something about it, like break up, confronting him will only precipitate things you may not be ready for.
Unless hooking up has a different meaning where you are, you know whats happening.

Answer 9

He is hiding something from you and for good reason, because you would be mad to find out the truth. He is cheating on you and you are too clueless to figure it out.

Answer 10

after 5 years.i think he should let u see his myspace.u have a right to see what hes looking and talking to.if u were dating for a few months thatd be a diffrent story.but 5years? yea thats not right.