no matter what i do.......i always fall for the bad guys.....and they always leave me for my friends....my last b/f left me for my best friend........why are you guys like that and are there any decent guys left????
2007-03-28 07:04:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, there are decent guys out there, but it sounds like you've got a twofold problem, though. You pick guys who'll leave you for your friends, and you pick friends who'll actually take them from you! Shop in different places. Good luck. You sound like a sweet (maybe too sweet) girl.
2007-03-28 07:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea. You're picking the wrong guys and the wrong friends.
No way to give you a complete psychological make-up, but if it is a consistent problem then you're aiming too low. Believe that you deserve respect. Only make a second or third date with a guy who's not just wanting to get you into bed. And if he leaves, then good riddance. He was wrong for you anyway.
And when you get ready to find someone for a long term relationship only date people you like. Don't date someone because they look good on your arm. Don't date them because you think they can solve some problem of yours. Or because your friends liked him first. These relationships are shallow and short lived.
2007-03-28 14:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by pensacola_sand 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes us guys are stupid. But not me I treat my woman as if she was queen. Some guys often see a girl they like but try to go thru another girl to get them. Also if you start to date a guy start keeping him away from your friends. That can reslove the problem once and for all. Look at it this way, the worlds tallest man just found him a wife. He is over 7ft tall and trust me he doesn't look hot. But that goes to show there is someone out their for you in the big ocean. Don't get discouraged on if a relationship doesn't work out, I promise you will find someone.
2007-03-28 14:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by zippy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a psychological standpoint, i would first look at your upbringing to help answer why you go for the bad boys. was your dad around? i f he was how did he treat your mom? if left with no good examples your left wanting attention and affection and guys that are readily available for that are the bad guys but obviously that is only temporary. i would also start looking at your standards. are they too high in one sense, say in looks, which could deter you from potential good guys. also your friends dont sound like good friends at all if they are taking your men considering if they just pop up one day being with them then they were doing shady business while you were still dating the guy.
2007-03-28 14:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by codester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant answer for all us Pigs but I'll give you what I think is the correct response. Being a bad boy but a real good man is not so much a choice as it may be just ones life experiences. If you want commitment My advice would be to look elsewhere. Falling for the bad boys just adds to thier mystique. If your looking for thrills thats your man, but hardly one to hang your hat on if you're serious about settling down. Remember, women are from venus and men are from mars.
2007-03-28 14:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by mfc795 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather then pointing the finger at others why not point it at yourself. If guys keep leaving you then perhaps your the problem.
There are many decent guys left, they are typically more shy and not as out spoken, which is what most girls are looking for
2007-03-28 14:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you get what you expect to receive.
You need to think and act more positively in your life. Asking for advice from only one segment of the population is an indication that you have issues. Try not to be so desperate. Desperate chicks are a huge turn-off.
Be open to new ideas and a better life for yourself.
2007-03-28 14:09:54 · answer #7 · answered by tom w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because girls go for bad boys and bad boys do exactly what you described above. One way to sum it up is, the better looking a guy, the more likely he will do what you described above, get bored with you and move on to the next challenge.
2007-03-28 14:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by John H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to raise your standards a bit. From conversations I've had with lady friends, bad boys make their 'badness' pretty clear right from the beginning.
2007-03-28 14:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Paul S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop lookin for it dear,Change your criteria for the love of your life,raise the standard...What would you like out of a guy,figure what you need from another and what you will tolerate...Write a list of pro's and con's to even having a relationship IE:trustworthy,honest,faith full,and don't worry about if he chews his nails in bed,although waking up with toe nails stuck to your back is awful,compromise...Make him wear socks to bed !!! L O L ...
2007-03-29 08:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by jackylberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋